I'm not sure what you're saying about psychological damage. That's what their nature is meant to do.
Tempest, just wanted to mention that my maternally incubating pastel has been eating every 10 days since she laid (her normal eating schedule). I don't know what that means but I've been watching those eggs and they seem to be developing like normal. The cool thing is the mother has not lost any weight and even gained a little - about 40 grams. So, I guess I'll find out when these eggs finally hatch if my decision to continue feeding was okay. I'm on day 44 now!