Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

[4theSNAKElady]

Everyone else has already given you sound advice. I'd just be regurgitating what's already been said. But, I will wish you luck. And do what's best for you. I was in an abusive realtionship, and I didn't heed the red flags....I consider myself fortunate that I left the relationship when I did...it could have been a whole lot worse! Regardless of whether it's a clean break or not, you need to look out for yourself...it's not worth the risk.

[SAR17]

Did'nt finish reading the thread sorry got angry and skipped to the last page to post. What a loser to prey on you like that. You dont have to like the same things as your partner but you have to except them. My wife hates that I hunt and race sprint cars but she has never has missed opening weekend or missed a race, becase thats what you do for the person you care about. She says thats why she loves me, because thats who I am. If you keep snakes he does not have to like them but, he should use that to spend more time with you. He sounds very selfish. He only wants you to do the things he wants to do. What a bum.

[mommanessy247]

laura take it from someone who's been abused and gone through the whole cycle- been hurt, i left him, he begged for forgiveness & promised he would change, i took him back-over & over again until 1 day i finally said "no more, im done" i left him for the last time & never looked back.
my point is, that "i will change" bit is a classic. please please please ignore it & dont give in. if you do, your just showing him what will work every time you get tired of his antics. that situation has abuse cycle written all over it. add the alcohol...not good. not good at all. please lock up & dont answer if he shows up.
im not trying to scare you but im really worried now that he's drinking.

[mommanessy247]

ok i realized my comment came late...in the morning when your last post was 11pm last night. hopefully he didnt show up and all is well. please keep us updated, as you have been, thank you.

[rabernet]

I'm doing my best, not easy at all at the moment.

Sweetie, from where I'm sitting - he's playing very dangerous emotional games with you right now. He's throwing you off center, and he knows damned well that he's doing it.

From being angry with you, to being so sweet and begging for another chance. He's not giving you time to find your center.

I know that it sucks being alone, and seeing your friends in successful relationships, but as I said earlier - you really do need to take time to learn to love YOU, unconditionally and only YOU. Once you do that, and you don't NEED (or feel that you need) a man to complete you, that's when the man you've been waiting for will enter your life.

You're 21, and I hated hearing it when I was your age (I'm 43 now - I get to say that until Sunday! LOL), but you're so young, and too young to be so concerned about not having found Mr. Right yet.

And you certainly can't make this Mr. Wrong become your Mr. Right.

Don't let him play these emotional games with you - the sweetness is only temporary. Trust me! Been there, done that, cried too many tears over it - and WISHED I'd only been in the relationship 2 months.

[mommanessy247]

yeah what he said...lol

[mommanessy247]

she maybe?

[shescountry89]

Sweetie, from where I'm sitting - he's playing very dangerous emotional games with you right now. He's throwing you off center, and he knows damned well that he's doing it.

From being angry with you, to being so sweet and begging for another chance. He's not giving you time to find your center.

I know that it sucks being alone, and seeing your friends in successful relationships, but as I said earlier - you really do need to take time to learn to love YOU, unconditionally and only YOU. Once you do that, and you don't NEED (or feel that you need) a man to complete you, that's when the man you've been waiting for will enter your life.

You're 21, and I hated hearing it when I was your age (I'm 43 now - I get to say that until Sunday! LOL), but you're so young, and too young to be so concerned about not having found Mr. Right yet.

And you certainly can't make this Mr. Wrong become your Mr. Right.

Don't let him play these emotional games with you - the sweetness is only temporary. Trust me! Been there, done that, cried too many tears over it - and WISHED I'd only been in the relationship 2 months.

That's exactly what he is doing, he's also guilt tripping me because he knows I got close with a couple of his friends and he's like - "Brandon doesn't know what to think of you anymore for breaking up with me..." This week is going to be difficult.

[Jerhart]

That's exactly what he is doing, he's also guilt tripping me because he knows I got close with a couple of his friends and he's like - "Brandon doesn't know what to think of you anymore for breaking up with me..." This week is going to be difficult.

You'll be okay. Everyone goes through this process of heartbreak at least once in their life. My friends, family, and myself have all gone through heartbreak as have many who have posted in this thread...perhaps you have been through it already. You may question your decision now..."did I do the right thing?"...but later down the road, no questions will remain and you will be proud of yourself for the decision you have made. Good Luck.

[mommanessy247]

this week will definitley be difficult, but, you did the right thing & not because we all told you to...tap into some positive thoughts to get yourself through it & keep up with us. we're all here for you.