Quote Originally Posted by Brunoheart View Post
Laura, My earlier comment was rushed because I was just home on lunch. The guy I married was a total gentleman, always "taking care" of me. Eventually, "taking care" of me included deciding who I could and could not be friends with, accusing me of sleeping with everyone I spoke to, including one of my old high school girl-friends. He tried to turn me against my family, he guilted me into doing what he wanted, he convinced me that I did not need to work, which turned into not being allowed to go anywhere without him. He and I have two beautiful daughters together and because he is so good at playing the good guy, they now live with him and they only come to my house every other weekend. He took everything from me and when I left the house, I had a robe, a pair of flip-flops and nothing else. I had to have the police go back to the house with me to get some of my things and had to leave almost everything else behind including some of my pets. I found out later that when my 75+ lb senior dog started becoming incontinant (sp) he would punish him by picking him by his neck and throwing him across the room. I had no where to go, no friends and no one to turn to. At one point while I was reading about Great Danes (my favorite breed), he said he hated how much time I spent on animals and wished I was more passionate about other things.
I am now married to a wonderful man that is very supportive, but loves my independence. He is not a big animal lover, but understands that I am and always will be. I did have to convince him to let me get a dog because his ex always asked for pets and then would not take care of them. Once he saw that I take excellant care of my animals, he was much more comfortable with the idea and helps me with no question when I need help with them. I didn't think I'd ever get married again, but am so glad I did. We have our disagreements (who doesn't), but we work through them together. You don't need anyone else to make you happy. Find happiness within yourself and the right someone will find that happiness in you and do everything in their power to keep it there. Good luck, I wish you all the best!
I am very sorry that happened to you, that sounds like it was incredibly difficult. It looks like you've come out of it a lot stronger.

Right now he just wrote me a long letter, pretty much begging me to not leave him and that he will change.