Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

[BallsUnlimited]

Well, I'm all the way out here in New Jersey, so I can't exactly meet anywhere. But like I said before, I'll be here if you just wanted to talk. I'm friendly I promise, ha ha.

creepy ^^^^ LOL

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[Brunoheart]

Laura, My earlier comment was rushed because I was just home on lunch. The guy I married was a total gentleman, always "taking care" of me. Eventually, "taking care" of me included deciding who I could and could not be friends with, accusing me of sleeping with everyone I spoke to, including one of my old high school girl-friends. He tried to turn me against my family, he guilted me into doing what he wanted, he convinced me that I did not need to work, which turned into not being allowed to go anywhere without him. He and I have two beautiful daughters together and because he is so good at playing the good guy, they now live with him and they only come to my house every other weekend. He took everything from me and when I left the house, I had a robe, a pair of flip-flops and nothing else. I had to have the police go back to the house with me to get some of my things and had to leave almost everything else behind including some of my pets. I found out later that when my 75+ lb senior dog started becoming incontinant (sp) he would punish him by picking him by his neck and throwing him across the room. I had no where to go, no friends and no one to turn to. At one point while I was reading about Great Danes (my favorite breed), he said he hated how much time I spent on animals and wished I was more passionate about other things.
I am now married to a wonderful man that is very supportive, but loves my independence. He is not a big animal lover, but understands that I am and always will be. I did have to convince him to let me get a dog because his ex always asked for pets and then would not take care of them. Once he saw that I take excellant care of my animals, he was much more comfortable with the idea and helps me with no question when I need help with them. I didn't think I'd ever get married again, but am so glad I did. We have our disagreements (who doesn't), but we work through them together. You don't need anyone else to make you happy. Find happiness within yourself and the right someone will find that happiness in you and do everything in their power to keep it there. Good luck, I wish you all the best!

[shescountry89]

Laura, My earlier comment was rushed because I was just home on lunch. The guy I married was a total gentleman, always "taking care" of me. Eventually, "taking care" of me included deciding who I could and could not be friends with, accusing me of sleeping with everyone I spoke to, including one of my old high school girl-friends. He tried to turn me against my family, he guilted me into doing what he wanted, he convinced me that I did not need to work, which turned into not being allowed to go anywhere without him. He and I have two beautiful daughters together and because he is so good at playing the good guy, they now live with him and they only come to my house every other weekend. He took everything from me and when I left the house, I had a robe, a pair of flip-flops and nothing else. I had to have the police go back to the house with me to get some of my things and had to leave almost everything else behind including some of my pets. I found out later that when my 75+ lb senior dog started becoming incontinant (sp) he would punish him by picking him by his neck and throwing him across the room. I had no where to go, no friends and no one to turn to. At one point while I was reading about Great Danes (my favorite breed), he said he hated how much time I spent on animals and wished I was more passionate about other things.
I am now married to a wonderful man that is very supportive, but loves my independence. He is not a big animal lover, but understands that I am and always will be. I did have to convince him to let me get a dog because his ex always asked for pets and then would not take care of them. Once he saw that I take excellant care of my animals, he was much more comfortable with the idea and helps me with no question when I need help with them. I didn't think I'd ever get married again, but am so glad I did. We have our disagreements (who doesn't), but we work through them together. You don't need anyone else to make you happy. Find happiness within yourself and the right someone will find that happiness in you and do everything in their power to keep it there. Good luck, I wish you all the best!

I am very sorry that happened to you, that sounds like it was incredibly difficult. It looks like you've come out of it a lot stronger.

Right now he just wrote me a long letter, pretty much begging me to not leave him and that he will change.

[BallsUnlimited]

I am very sorry that happened to you, that sounds like it was incredibly difficult. It looks like you've come out of it a lot stronger.

Right now he just wrote me a long letter, pretty much begging me to not leave him and that he will change.

dont fall for the classic line i will change. Point is we never change...

[rabernet]

I am very sorry that happened to you, that sounds like it was incredibly difficult. It looks like you've come out of it a lot stronger.

Right now he just wrote me a long letter, pretty much begging me to not leave him and that he will change.

Please don't fall for that - he's already made it perfectly clear where he stands.

[shescountry89]

Please don't fall for that - he's already made it perfectly clear where he stands.

I'm trying, I really am

[Brunoheart]

Mine promised to change, admitted he was wrong and begged for another chance (this was before we had our younger daughter). He changed long enough for me to feel comfortable and then right back to his old self. Sometimes it's so hard to see what is happening from the inside of the relationship and (no offense guys) us girls always feel like it is our job to make the relationship work. The fact of the matter is, if they are not willing to work just as hard as we are to make things work, it never will. Whatever you decide to do, just be VERY, VERY careful and always remember that when you are at a low spot, it won't matter how many people reach out to help you, YOU have to grab their hands and pull yourself up. The relationship I was in showed me that I needed to be strong for me and for my girls. The good news is, my 15 yr old is starting to date and just broke up with her "boyfriend" because he was becoming controlling and jealous of her other friends. She recognized the problem and dealt with it in short order. I am so very proud of her!!!!

[BallsUnlimited]

I'm trying, I really am

ur not trying hard enough. now drop and give me 20....wait what???LMAOOO just dont fall for that line. I may have used it once or twice Luckily for the girls it didnt work

[shescountry89]

Mine promised to change, admitted he was wrong and begged for another chance (this was before we had our younger daughter). He changed long enough for me to feel comfortable and then right back to his old self. Sometimes it's so hard to see what is happening from the inside of the relationship and (no offense guys) us girls always feel like it is our job to make the relationship work. The fact of the matter is, if they are not willing to work just as hard as we are to make things work, it never will. Whatever you decide to do, just be VERY, VERY careful and always remember that when you are at a low spot, it won't matter how many people reach out to help you, YOU have to grab their hands and pull yourself up. The relationship I was in showed me that I needed to be strong for me and for my girls. The good news is, my 15 yr old is starting to date and just broke up with her "boyfriend" because he was becoming controlling and jealous of her other friends. She recognized the problem and dealt with it in short order. I am so very proud of her!!!!

Good job on your daughters part, that's awesome. What makes it so difficult is that he treated he great in different aspects and hes trying to get to me right now. I really, really like him. And I know I have to be careful. I told him I don't want to talk to him for the rest of the night, I have a lot to think about. Of course, he's out drinking with his friends.

[Danounet]

I have a lot to think about. Of course, he's out drinking with his friends.

Well I think you know what his priorities are. It doesn't look to me like you are very high up there... Sorry =/