Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

[PurplePython]

I will just say 1 thing.... You can really tell the character of a person by what they think of animals. This is almost 100% true when I applied this to my personal life. If he laughs about your passion of animals, and he laughs about the fact that you dont want to give them up, then hes basically worthless already in my book.

I know not everyone is as "into animals" as us on this forum, but people who don't care about animals at all or have no interest in them tend to be pretty worthless. All of the people I know who are very interested in reptiles or other animals are pretty much all more passionate, friendly and just polite and positive than the few people I know that dislike animals.

I know people will probably disagree with me and this will turn into an argument like always, but thats just something I have noticed.

If this guy dislikes animals and hes trying to make you give up your dreams, then just end it right now. He sounds like a tool.

EDIT - Oh yeah, I ain't a lady but I figured I'd throw in my 2 cents.

[Kaorte]

I will just say 1 thing.... You can really tell the character of a person by what they think of animals. This is almost 100% true when I applied this to my personal life. If he laughs about your passion of animals, and he laughs about the fact that you don't want to give them up, then hes basically worthless already in my book.

I know not everyone is as "into animals" as us on this forum, but people who don't care about animals at all or have no interest in them tend to be pretty worthless. All of the people I know who are very interested in reptiles or other animals are pretty much all more passionate, friendly and just polite and positive than the few people I know that dislike animals.

I know people will probably disagree with me and this will turn into an argument like always, but that's just something I have noticed.

*raises hand*

I disagree.

[Blightedchemist]

Is Steffe playing devils advocate?

on the contrary, in my experience I agree with your statement.
Most people I know that care for animals are in general better people to get along with, more caring, friendlier ect, ect.
But that is neither here nor there.

[ColdBloodedCarnival]

I don't mean to discredit any of the great advice anyone has shared with you. Though, in my opinion, the best guidence you can receive when it comes to relationships is to not take anyone's advice. None of us are qualified to give you advice. You can tell us what's going on between you and your boyfriend and that will give us a good view from the outside but relationships are more complicated then that. We can't know what your feelings for him are or his feelings for you. You are the only one that can properly weigh the pros and cons of your relationship taking all of your feelings into account.

We can't tell you wether you should or shouldn't leave him. The truth is - you already know the answer. The hard part is not deciding what you should do. The hard part is admitting to yourself what you have already decided.

[Kaorte]

Is Steffe playing devils advocate?

No. I can't agree with such a blanket statement. I know people who don't like or care for animals and are wonderful people. I also know people who like and [poorly] care for animals and are awful people.

[Jerhart]

Is Steffe playing devils advocate?

on the contrary, in my experience I agree with your statement.
Most people I know that care for animals are in general better people to get along with, more caring, friendlier ect, ect.
But that is neither here nor there.

and very opinionated...

[Jerhart]

No. I can't agree with such a blanket statement. I know people who don't like or care for animals and are wonderful people. I also know people who like and [poorly] care for animals and are awful people.

Exactly...

[Boanerges]

You are worth more then that Laura!!! You have to know you are worth more then that and that you deserve better!! And if you don't I am telling you. We are all telling you. All this has happened in only two months just think about two years from now when he is really comfortable. I am sure he is a great guy minus these things you brought up but do you really want to compromise all this even though you deserve better? You don't want any one controlling you or telling you what to do. You have to think, do you want to live your life being you or do you want to live your life being the person this guy wants you to be? That has to be a rough existance. As a female the guy should treat you like a queen and not the way he is doing now. He does not have to like or be into the things you are but he does need to respect and accept that it is a part of who you are. I think you deserve so much better. You did just fine looking for this guy and you will do quite fine up until you find a better one!!! Good luck with whatever you decide to do

[Blightedchemist]

I don't mean to discredit any of the great advice anyone has shared with you. Though, in my opinion, the best guidence you can receive when it comes to relationships is to not take anyone's advice. None of us are qualified to give you advice. You can tell us what's going on between you and your boyfriend and that will give us a good view from the outside but relationships are more complicated then that. We can't know what your feelings for him are or his feelings for you. You are the only one that can properly weigh the pros and cons of your relationship taking all of your feelings into account.

We can't tell you wether you should or shouldn't leave him. The truth is - you already know the answer. The hard part is not deciding what you should do. The hard part is admitting to yourself what you have already decided.

Very true, we could be considered practically blind as to what is going on. All we can do is use our own experience from similar conditions and help our friend in a time of need, and ultimately it is up to Laura.

No. I can't agree with such a blanket statement. I know people who don't like or care for animals and are wonderful people. I also know people who like and [poorly] care for animals and are awful people.

Agreed Steffe, which is also why I felt I needed to add that in my experience, I couldn't however say every animal owner ever is an incredible person or otherwise.

[zeke]

I read part of the thread up to the 2nd page.. I would leave him if I were you.. My fiance had no clue about reptiles until we got together, and she LOVES them now.. Like many others have said, he wants to be incontrol.. The misses also says to leave him, she says " it's not love , if he doesnt love everything about you"

I also say KICK him in the junk and leave!

Cheers!