Update on my boyfriend, he's starting chemo tomorrow

[Big Gunns]

Good luck to you both. He is lucky to have you at his side, and he needs you now more than ever.

[bloodpython19]

Thank you so much, it does make me feel better. I'm so happy to hear of all the people that have made it through and are cancer free many years down the road!



Oh wow, that would have been hard. I'm glad to hear he is alright. So far he's alright, it's been three 8 hour days of chemo so far and he says he's feeling fine, but he's extremely tired and fatigued. He's felt sick to his stomach off and on, but they've been giving him lots of anti nausea medications.



Oh my goodness you've had a lot of cancer related tragedy in your family. He thankfully only had a tumor in one of his testicles and they removed the one with the tumor. He still "works" just fine And he even got an implant, much like a woman would get for a breast implant, it has turned out very nice! Although, now there's a whole other issue we have to deal with now. Not only do we have to worry about pregnancy because we can't have children for at least two years after chemo, but we also have to use protection so I don't get chemo treatments!!!! I never would have thought about that! Thank heavens the nurse thought about telling us that! Apparently it's easy for him to pass some chemo on to me so we have to be careful with any contact we have while he's getting daily treatments. One of his chemo medications is highly toxic to kidneys.

well at least you aare being careful.wat kind of chemo is he taking?

[SlitherinSisters]

well at least you aare being careful.wat kind of chemo is he taking?

Oh gosh I'd have to look, he's on three different ones, all three are through IVs. One is toxic to the kidneys if you aren't on a bunch of IV fluids, one has a chance of causing blood cancer, and the third is really bad for your lungs. Lol, doesn't sound like a very good trade off.

[bloodpython19]

no it dosent!that is no kool at all! are they trying to kill him?

[Alice]

Everyone has been asking us what they can do for us, or what we need. I have no idea what I should ask them for! Food? Help around the house? Help taking care of Blake when he's not feeling well for weeks at a time??? My family came to our house this week while we were gone in D.C. visiting family and cleaned our entire house and put a shower in our upstairs bathroom! That was so nice to come home to!

Frist of all, my thoughts and prayers are with you guys.

I have 3 friends who are going through chemo right now. Since the chemo seems to react differently in all 3, I wouldn't even try to guess how your love will react to it. However, all 3 seem to be really tired during and after chemo and their caregivers spend a lot of time just staying by their side. Therefore, if friends ask to help, don't hesitate to say yes. Having good food available when you and he get hungry is always comforting - your friends can do that for you . . . running to his fav fast food joint or cooking a nice meal. You will probably really appreciate help keeping up with the house cleaning and laundry too. And at this time of year, one of your firends might be able to help you do any shopping for the holidays that you feel must get done. Just a few thoughts, but the most important is for you to concentrate on helping you and he stay as upbeat as possibe.

Good luck!

[SlitherinSisters]

no it dosent!that is no kool at all! are they trying to kill him?

Lol pretty much. He's on a bunch of fluids and lots of medications to help with the side effects. From my understanding chemo nearly kills everything in your body and that's the only way it can kill the cancer cells. One thing that freaked me out was reading the drug facts of one of his chemo meds, apparently it's an ingredient in mustard gas!!! Crazy.

Frist of all, my thoughts and prayers are with you guys.

I have 3 friends who are going through chemo right now. Since the chemo seems to react differently in all 3, I wouldn't even try to guess how your love will react to it. However, all 3 seem to be really tired during and after chemo and their caregivers spend a lot of time just staying by their side. Therefore, if friends ask to help, don't hesitate to say yes. Having good food available when you and he get hungry is always comforting - your friends can do that for you . . . running to his fav fast food joint or cooking a nice meal. You will probably really appreciate help keeping up with the house cleaning and laundry too. And at this time of year, one of your firends might be able to help you do any shopping for the holidays that you feel must get done. Just a few thoughts, but the most important is for you to concentrate on helping you and he stay as upbeat as possibe.

Good luck!

Thank you so much, those are some very good ideas. One of our friends just asked us if we would want any food and they brought us lasagna! It was so nice. My mom also came over to help clean up the house. We were hardly home this week because we spent 10 hours a day at the cancer center and driving to/from home. My mom even offered to come over and stay with Blake so I could go ride my horse. I'm so happy, I haven't rode my horse for over a month! Everyone has been so helpful!