Quote Originally Posted by bad-one View Post
I have to agree, things could be so much worse, and I'm glad they are not. I feel that my life has been very stable and I've been sooo lucky to have that. I'm not the type to give up easily, I'm terribly stubborn actually lol

dsirkle, you do have some good points, although I can't fully agree with them. He is responsible, a lot more responsible than most of the people I have ever known. I just feel that he should be open with the truth to me, I am not so young that I can not understand (because I do, I expected a divorce at some point, just not him lying to us so blatantly about what we know is going on). I will try not to write him off as a bad guy, but I know it will take me a long time to even allow a close relationship with him again, if ever. I often find great difficulty in forgiving people who have hurt me so deeply, so much so that it sometimes takes years for me to let it go

I just hope everyone will be able to move on and be happy again, I think it is going to be a while though.
I am going attempt to make an analogy here. You Dad is living his life as he must. For whatever reasons, things have broken down between your parents, their marriage seems to be over, and your Dad is seeking normal companionship as he is not a Monk. He is reluctant to discuss what he is doing with you for the very same reasons that a gay person is afraid to come out of the closet to his family. He hasn't sorted out his own feelings yet, he feels some shame and he fears a bad reaction from members of his family. He would probably like to get this out in the open, but isn't able to do it yet. And you are like the relative that discovers that a family member is gay and cries "It's all about me! It's all about me! He has been sneaking around being gay and I am disapointed in him and I am only worried about how I am affected by this and how this reflects on our family dynamics! How dare he?" And you embody the reason that he is afraid to approach the subject by the attitude that you are displaying now. Just some food for thought.