I have to agree, things could be so much worse, and I'm glad they are not. I feel that my life has been very stable and I've been sooo lucky to have that. I'm not the type to give up easily, I'm terribly stubborn actually lol

dsirkle, you do have some good points, although I can't fully agree with them. He is responsible, a lot more responsible than most of the people I have ever known. I just feel that he should be open with the truth to me, I am not so young that I can not understand (because I do, I expected a divorce at some point, just not him lying to us so blatantly about what we know is going on). I will try not to write him off as a bad guy, but I know it will take me a long time to even allow a close relationship with him again, if ever. I often find great difficulty in forgiving people who have hurt me so deeply, so much so that it sometimes takes years for me to let it go

I just hope everyone will be able to move on and be happy again, I think it is going to be a while though.