hey everyone... for some reason i didn't get any notifications of this thread so i thought it was just ignored... but alas... here it is... alive and well LOL
he got it done last night. "AWESOME" - so everything that comes out his mouth is awesome LOL this was his original idea and i'm glad he stuck with it. if he had chosen something i didn't agree with, it wouldn't have happened.
as for the poster who said i'd allow drinking etc... you sooooo have me tagged wrong. i allow my kids to express themselves. i allow them to be them. they don't have curfews, they don't have a lot of 'rules'... but they know (cause i tell them often) that if they go too far... they will have them! i trust them and i show them that by allowing them to be themselves. there's nothing worse than being forced into a box you don't wanna live in. by allowing them the freedom to do some things (like an inner lip tat that no one will ever see unless they show them and won't hold them back from getting a job they want etc)... they listen to me more on things like "don't do drugs" - use two forms of birth control if and when you decide to start having sex.
i pick my battles wisely... and make sure they are few and far between. it worked with my eldest... she stayed away from drugs and alcohol until she moved out. then her choices were her own to make... cause after all, it's her life to live.
my son must have thanked me a thousand times last night - he knows i'm a cool mom, he knows i'm a mom who listens... who really hears him.
and so, in my opinion... my purpose in his life is flowing perfectly. to guide - to lead by example but not to push, shove or force. after all... i've never respected anyone who forced me to do stuff... but i respected the ones who allowed me the space to figure things out for myself.
i'm here as their guides in this life... but trust me when i say... i carry a big stick and know how to use it LOL
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