i need help

[jblaze]

OMG.... Anyway, back to the topic at hand. Men bickering like women...

When I bought my snake I let my parents know a few days ahead of time that I was getting one. I dont know if they believed me or what but I came home with my Ball Python in a tupperware container.

The second snake I got, Carpet Python, my parents did not know about until about the second day. My mom was not really that mad other then I used money to buy it that I "owed" her.

Just get it and bring it home, put it in a tupperware container in your closet with holes and you are fine. When she eventually finds out about it, you can be like, "Mommy, I have had it for "x" weeks, months, years, without you knowing or it escaping. What seems to be the issue, Mommy?"

So just get the snake! Happy SNAKE DAY!

[Kaorte]

My mom is deathly afraid of snakes and constantly emails me links to news articles about snakes killing or hurting people or escaping (scare tactic things). Every single time I have to explain to her and educate her that I don't have that kind of snake and my snakes are securely housed and aren't going anywhere.

Will I ever change her mind about them? No. But I have gotten her used to the fact that I like snakes and I will keep owning them. I got my first ball python after I moved out. I told my parents after the fact and they flipped. They told me to return the snake, but there was no way that was happening. I don't live in their house, I pay for my own things and I make my own money to pay for them.

Either wait or just constantly spout snake facts to eventually get your mom used to the idea of having one in the house. It is really just a matter of education.

Don't loose your moms trust by just bringing one home. Its not worth the yelling and fighting and grudges that will occur because of it.

[Danounet]

I dont think any pet is worth making your parents upset. Not even mad or anything similar, forget about that. But how sad would she feel If you disrespect her like that? I always thought about that when I was growing up. As first generation Inmigrants, my parents worked very hard to try to give us a normal life style.

I say just wait a bit more.... You are already 18 (or almost there?), Waiting a little bit more wont hurt.

[tonkatoyman]

I dont think any pet is worth making your parents upset. Not even mad or anything similar, forget about that. But how sad would she feel If you disrespect her like that? I always thought about that when I was growing up. As first generation Inmigrants, my parents worked very hard to try to give us a normal life style.

I say just wait a bit more.... You are already 18 (or almost there?), Waiting a little bit more wont hurt.

Well said, you will go far with that kind of attitude

[Jlowe]

You really don't think she could do anything? When I was living at home, if I brought home an animal that my mom said no to, she would have killed it.

Now while I admit most moms aren't at all like mine, your mom could punish you in many ways, or she could get rid of the snake for you. There are plenty of things your mom could do if you just brought it home.

You can talk to her and try to convince her, but I wouldn't bring it home without her telling you its ok. I'd avoid that kind of problem if I were you.

yea but my mo wouldnt go in my room at all if i get a snake i would never do it but my mom is scared of them that much

[Jlowe]

OMG.... Anyway, back to the topic at hand. Men bickering like women...

When I bought my snake I let my parents know a few days ahead of time that I was getting one. I dont know if they believed me or what but I came home with my Ball Python in a tupperware container.

The second snake I got, Carpet Python, my parents did not know about until about the second day. My mom was not really that mad other then I used money to buy it that I "owed" her.

Just get it and bring it home, put it in a tupperware container in your closet with holes and you are fine. When she eventually finds out about it, you can be like, "Mommy, I have had it for "x" weeks, months, years, without you knowing or it escaping. What seems to be the issue, Mommy?"

So just get the snake! Happy SNAKE DAY!

haha thnx that would actually be pretty hilarious though i would come home to my mom screaming when she found it lol

[Jlowe]

My mom is deathly afraid of snakes and constantly emails me links to news articles about snakes killing or hurting people or escaping (scare tactic things). Every single time I have to explain to her and educate her that I don't have that kind of snake and my snakes are securely housed and aren't going anywhere.

Will I ever change her mind about them? No. But I have gotten her used to the fact that I like snakes and I will keep owning them. I got my first ball python after I moved out. I told my parents after the fact and they flipped. They told me to return the snake, but there was no way that was happening. I don't live in their house, I pay for my own things and I make my own money to pay for them.

Either wait or just constantly spout snake facts to eventually get your mom used to the idea of having one in the house. It is really just a matter of education.

Don't loose your moms trust by just bringing one home. Its not worth the yelling and fighting and grudges that will occur because of it.

thats cool yea i know i would never do anything like that because me and my mom are really close and she woould hate me if i did something like thta

[Jlowe]

I dont think any pet is worth making your parents upset. Not even mad or anything similar, forget about that. But how sad would she feel If you disrespect her like that? I always thought about that when I was growing up. As first generation Inmigrants, my parents worked very hard to try to give us a normal life style.

I say just wait a bit more.... You are already 18 (or almost there?), Waiting a little bit more wont hurt.

you know i think im just gunna end up waiting til i move out or something which if i find a job should be pretty soon so yea i guess i can wait

[Vypyrz]

I believe this statement to be only a scare tactic..... As only a handful of parents would even follow through. Your other statement on paying rent, if you would condone the behavior if they paid rent, then you dont really care about the behavior in the first place, you are just trying to keep control which will be lost eventually anyways... I have four kids and I will probably say that garbage to them but unless they came home with a heroin addiction or something along those lines, I would just be like whatever......

Control issue.. yes
scare tactic... no
For me, it's simple. My house, my rules. Don't like it, leave


JLOWE, I would encourage you to try and convince your mom by presenting her with the facts and trying to get her to interact with a little bp at a pet store. Maybe print off some of those "cute" baby bp pics have and leave them laying around. As a last resort, name the cutest, most relaxed bp at the pet store after your mom then introduce them.

[Jlowe]

Control issue.. yes
scare tactic... no
For me, it's simple. My house, my rules. Don't like it, leave


JLOWE, I would encourage you to try and convince your mom by presenting her with the facts and trying to get her to interact with a little bp at a pet store. Maybe print off some of those "cute" baby bp pics have and leave them laying around. As a last resort, name the cutest, most relaxed bp at the pet store after your mom then introduce them.

that would prob help alot i know there is so little i can do but i think the most part is she is scared of it biting her but the facts should help with that and i plan on taking her to the pet store down the street so she can see how calm they are