I can understand being upset about living with a clepto, but other than that, i don't understand what the big deal is. there is obviously no judgement to be made about what someone chooses to do for their amusement - like smoking pot. I think it is terrible that that girl got expelled. I think your degree should not be jeopardized for any reason other than academic unless you are a detriment to those around you.
That girl has every right to sleep with 6 different guys a day, smoke as much weed as she can afford, and still be a member of an academic establishment so long as her marks are at par.
The stealing could have absolutely been dealt with in a manner that would have probably changed the series of events that led to her expulsion. I know, because i lived in dorms and off campus while attending university, and like anyone else, had ppl eat my food, wear my clothes etc.
the social circumstances offered to you at a university are ones that you should learn to deal with effectively for your own good. just like it is socially awkward to steal someone's pudding cup, it is just as socially awkward to not be able to address that instance effectively. I mean if ur fiance put a lock on her door, talked to her roommate in a very serious way - outlined their expectations for and from one another, etc. then i am sure their would have been no expulsion.
I say this because there is more to someone than what they have been up to lately. If i got kicked out of school for smoking weed, who knows if i would be where i am today - i have done things im not proud of, and things i would take back - we all have. imagine if you got fired/expelled/evicted, because ur neighbor or coworker decided to judge you on the mistake you made most recently, and you were prosecuted to the full extent of the law/rule.
just a thought.