thank you sauzo I will do exactly that I figured it was too soon anyways for the handling the only reason I got her out in the first place today (besides me really wanting to haha) is that I was changing the water and she came out from underneath the substrate and was watching me and slowly coming closer while flickering her tongue so me being me I just picked her up thinking "well the male was perfectly ok why wouldn she be" not thinking that every single snake is completely different and that's when she realized she wasent having it lol and by then I knew if I just put her back right then she would maybe keep doing that just to be put back like you said so next time I will just let her watch me..... and another thing about pooping are they kinda like bp's can they go forever without or are they more regular (to a point lol)....so I should wait for what a couple weeks before trying again just do the normal cleaning of the cage till then I really don't want to stress her more than I have already (but to be honest I think it stressed me more than it did her) but I am willing to wait as long as I have to I think what really made me pick her up was it was my new baby and well everybody just wants to hold their new snake but lesson learned thank you (lesson learned: patience is key!!!) thank you sauzo and I really like your jcp iv been wanting some kind of arboreal snake but I want to get these guys settled in before I take on new challenges lol (this hobby is soooooo addicting but its the best addiction iv had) bite by one snake 20 TIMES I just want to get bite once and that's just to get it over with lol ill pass on all the others