My Fiance Is Driving Me Nuts And I Don't Know What To Do

[WarriorPrincess90]

I'm sorry to say my excitement about getting a new baby boa next weekend has dwindled slightly...

See:
http://ball-pythons.net/forums/showt...e-Very-Excited

My fiance just called to talk to me for the first time today. (She took a job in another city and I only see her every couple of weeks for about 24 hours if I'm lucky.) It's *temporary*, but we're not sure how long temporary is going to be. She's working on getting hired with a police department in the area...but now suddenly she is looking all over the place since her first choice location didn't work out. Anyway, I called to tell her I had found a good home for Faron (my normal male), and that I was gonna get that new baby boa I wanted. She proceeds to berate me and make me feel awful about it, then "teasingly" says, "You want to be single don't you? I can't believe you're getting another snake. You obviously want to be single."

I told her just yesterday or the day before that I was considering rehoming my male in favor of a male boa I could pair with my Monster Tail in the future. I told her the number of animals would not change and she said "Okay." I don't think I'm crazy, but I took that to mean, "As long as the number doesn't change, it's okay." This was following the conversation a couple of months ago about my wanting to breed and wanting a total of at least 10 snakes to do that. 10 being the cap that *she* assigned. Now I just want to basically swap one out for another, and she wouldn't even talk to me about it. I asked her what the problem was, since the number of snakes had not changed...and she responded with, "I can't talk to you right now." I haven't spoken to her all day, she gave me 3 minutes on the phone, and after I tell her I'm excited about this, she gets mad and won't talk to me. Suddenly, we had spoken enough and she was gonna go watch a movie instead. I find this infuriating because I don't ask her to care for, help pay for, or even acknowledge that the animals are in the house...and yet she acts like this? They are not intruding upon her space, they don't need her attention...nothing! She's just so wishy washy. One minute I can have up to 10, now I am going to keep the number exactly the same and she flips on me? Am I missing something?

We actually initially bonded over the fact we *both* had snakes when we met. She didn't tell me until a few months ago that she never had any attachment to the snake and only made a big deal out of it because I obviously liked them so much. -_-

She pulled this same thing with a dog too. I have wanted a dog ever since I moved out of my parents house almost four years ago. We've been together nearly 3 years of that time. We moved into our current apartment so that we could get a dog. Spend two months or more looking on the humane society's website for the perfect dog...and then when we move into this place and I got all excited about finally being able to go get a dog...she tells me she's not ready for a dog and doesn't want one. A year and a half later...she still doesn't want one...like AT ALL. And if I bring it up, she gets mad and won't talk to me. A few months ago, she promised me she would get me a dog for Graduation. Now, graduation is getting ever closer and it has turned into, "Well, when we move to a new place in July, we'll get one." And most recently, it turned into "Why don't you wait until we live somewhere you can have a big dog before you get one?" Like really?!? That's a subtle way of saying...why don't you wait for a few years until we have a house...then we'll talk about it. WHAT?!?

Every single animal is a fight...and I really don't have that many. (I grew up on a farm and between my parents we had roughly 30 chickens, 8 dogs, a bunch of cats, three ferrets, gerbils, my schnieder's skink, and two horses.) In my mind, 4 snakes, a crestie, 2 robo hamsters and a cat is nothing. I work for a veterinarian for goodness sakes! When she met me she knew I wanted a bunch of animals and to be a Vet one day! If you don't like animals, why on earth would you pursue someone who is a pre-vet major!?!

Regardless, I feel like she is being unreasonable and toying with me. If she is adamantly against it, she needs to say so in the first place! And we've talked about this several times. It just doesn't get better. She also happens to be the messiest person I know, and until she moved to the other city for work I was always stuck cleaning up her messes. Even now, she comes home for 24 hours, makes a mess, and leaves. I love her to death, I want to marry her *obviously*, and yet...I don't know how I can spend the rest of my life with someone who doesn't like animals...I'm very confused and upset. Both about this and about the fact that she ruined my *I'm getting a new snake!* high.

I just don't know what to do or how to approach talking to her about it. She won't even talk to me. And now I don't have the luxury of cornering her on the couch and talking about it. She's in another city until further notice.

Blah. Any advice would be appreciated. Sorry for the long rant all.