Question for Female Herpers! (but guys are welcome, too.)

[4theSNAKElady]

To me, its a difficult call, and agreed everyones situation is different. Me n hubby (as he already posted lol) met on here, and both love snakes. However, we both have a hard time saying 'yes'. And currently, im the only one working, so i think itd be very unfair if he went out and got some new snakes while im struggling to pay the bills. So we currently are at a point where if we both want something new, we gotta sell one we have first.
In your situation, id say as long as your bills are being paid, its your own spending money, and you are more than able to care for one new snake, i dont see what the problem is. If your man says stuff like "its my place", or "my rules", or some such other thing, then i would say the issue has nothin to do with snakes, if you know what i mean. Good luck, and hopefully it works out.


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[mechnut450]

To me, its a difficult call, and agreed everyones situation is different. Me n hubby (as he already posted lol) met on here, and both love snakes. However, we both have a hard time saying 'yes'. And currently, im the only one working, so i think itd be very unfair if he went out and got some new snakes while im struggling to pay the bills. So we currently are at a point where if we both want something new, we gotta sell one we have first.


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We Have agreed that paying bills first before a new addition was added to our collection ( and our current standing is that it only funded from the selling of current animals as a result each replacement must be a upgrade to the morph(s) we currently have) so this means no single gene animals. I also have decided I can do without a lot until I can find work, so I sit home and only travel when needed or it benefits us both, by bring in a few extra bucks or prevents her from riding her bike to and from work when the weather not favorable for it...

[sho220]

My wife is awesome...she's always willing to help out cleaning tubs and has never balked when I wanted to add a new snake. As long as I'm not spending the rent money she's good. She's not as dedicated to them as I am, but she enjoys handling them and really likes seeing babies pip...

[Expensive hobby]

My wife always says no more, actually said none at all, but in the last 7 months I have acquired 14 new snakes, so I guess I don't listen lol.

Her biggest thing was nothing over 3-4' long, and I have a 5' boa, 7ft boa, a 6' anaconda, 2 +8ft boas, and a 12' anaconda, and just picked up a baby retic. So guess that rule is out the window too.

She's still with me tho, she's so great! Such a trooper!


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[Shera]

My husband is not much into reptiles, or pets at all for that matter. He doesn't limit what I buy (this is a husband-wife, not a father-daughter relationship after all), but he does ask me to consider carefully and give it some time before making big decisions like long term pet purchases. I appreciate his input because I know I can be impulsive. He has his little hobbies and doesn't have a problem with mine, as long as they are done in a financially reasonable fashion (we have 3 kids, who always come first).

ETA: I see a lot of people have mentioned finances, where I took this as more of a "money aside" thing. Absolutely, we do not retain any consumer debt month to month and if that was the case, new pets wouldn't be an option for us.

[DestinyLynette]

My fiancee was afraid of snakes, now he likes them, and accepts / supports my hobby, but still thinks I'm a crazy snake lady ;P Our only think is discussion prior to buying, which is fair since we share a bank account. As far as an animal limit? He's said so himself he accepts that he'll be living in a zoo.

[hotelvoodoo]

Sorry to here your guy is not into the herping. My fiancee and I breed balls together, but I'm always the one that wants more. He's capped our collection at 30, even though I'm the one that does all the feeding and cleaning. So in a much less restrained way, I understand.

[meyou4042]

Very interesting thread!! I am the one with the interest in snakes, while my husband is not "afraid" of them, he does not have the desire and love for them that I do. I just starting having snakes again, and have two BP's. I just rescued a Hog Island/Nic cross yesterday, without consulting hubby (surprise!!). It was free, so it was not a monetary decision, but he did give me a "are you sure you can handle a snake that big" conversation.

As long as the bills are paid, and I am the one caring for them, he is ok with it. But then again we are not your average people - we do dog rescue and currently have 12 dogs in our home. They range from 3.6lbs to 170lbs!

My kids on the other hand are NOT snake fans, and ask me "Not another snake mom!!"