Looking for kind words, my boyfriend has testicular cancer

[SlitherinSisters]

tell him good luck. Im actually going in january to get mine rechecked. I went in june and they told me that I had a cyst that could turn into cancer so they want to check me every so often now and that is the most uncomfortable thing you could ever do.

Thank you! And make sure you keep up with those check ups!!! Do they do an ultrasound each time? The doc told my boyfriend it was a cyst three months ago, it got bigger so he went in again and got antibiotics, and two weeks later there was no change. The doc was going to send him home with antibiotics again, but he wanted another doc opinion and that doc was freaked out and wanted an ultrasound done. Low and behold there was a tumor. I'm glad you have been watching it!

He'll be fine. You guys are in this together and his strength along with yours creates a powerful force.

Tell him good luck for me! Just stick by his side and give him as much support as you can.

Thank you! I will!

Aw Isis.

Do not feel bad about your tears and your need for support. Cancer is a scary thing and leaves us feeling pretty powerless and helpless. So I think crying is an appropriate response.

Sexual/reproductive cancers were up till a few years ago cloaked in silence and embarassment. Good on your partner for being able to deal with it frankly. In the early years of the AIDS movement there was an expression `Silence=Death` which basically means if we do not talk about AIDS then we will die from AIDS.

I think it fits for many things.

No one flinches at the mention of breast cancer now, but a lot of people have been mobilized for a lot of years to make sure we can talk about it openly and in so doing, we can save lives. Same with testicular cancer, prostrate, uterine, and colon cancers.

Sounds like you are both in a good space to deal with this, not that anyone should ever have to, but you have each other, and it sounds like you have great family and community around you.

Never hesitate to reach out to them when you need to!
Consider it cashing in on years of xmas and birthday gifts (time for PAYBACK!!!).

I will be thinking good thoughts for your partner and praying-thinking of his testicles... wait a minute, I think that came out wrong!!!

Hugs,
Bruce

I hate that it's something to be embarrassed about. Thank heavens Blake isn't embarrassed about it, and doesn't mind people knowing. I think you're exactly right silence=death. Thank you so much for your support

I'm glad you'll be thinking about him and his testicles!

So sorry to hear this Stephanie You'll be in my thoughts! I deal with hard times with humor, and looking on the bright side. Same for us, my BF and I are constantly being asked when we're going to have kids, and we're not even engaged! Been together for almost 5 years though!

You guys will get through it!

Thank you. Lol, I don't know what it is with people and wanting to rush those of us who aren't ready for kids/marriage yet!!!

[Denial]

What happened with me was I started to have pain alot and I mean I wasnt getting hit or anything I would jsut be waling around like walmart or something and just start hurting and I didnt want to go to the doctor for almost a year because I was embarrased and then finally I felt a lump and really freaked out so I went to the hospital one night becuase I was in EXTREME pain. And there ultrasound machine they have there they dont operate at night so I had to be scheduled to come back in the next week for an ultrasound and when I got there the room was filled with pregnant women and I was the only guy there and it was very uncomfortable. You could tell they were wondering what I was doing there. And then when I was called to go back in I got on the table and when they started with the machine somethign happened and it stopped working so someone had to come in and fix it. And when the women checked she told me I had two cyst and I didnt even know about the other one. She also said I have alot of bad tissue there thats been damaged over the years from riding bikes and skating. And she made me an appointment with a specialist and he looked at me and said that 99% of all males have cysts down there but most of them do not ever relize they are there because they do not bother them. He said some will go away some will grow in size and some can be cancerous. But one thing he told me is that they usually do not bother guys and they dont hurt. Well mine hurt really bad sometimes. He told me he didnt think they were cancerous. And sent me on my way. Well I didnt feel comfortable with that because he siad they dont hurt and mine did so I went to another doctor and he is the one that said he wants to keep track of it and check up on me every so often. I get an ultrasound every 3rd visit so its every couple of months. And he said since im so young he doesnt want to operate and take them out but he said if they start to grow or if they continue to cause pain or if he see signs of it becoming cancerous he is going to take them out. Its very uncomfortable for a guy to get an ultrasound although the more I do it the more comfortable Ive become with it. But I do hope everything goes well with your boyfriend from what the doctors have told me though is that its a very simple procedure and testicular cancer has a very high success rate for recovering cancer free. But its always scary when cancer is involved with anybody in any part of there bodys

[dc4teg]

I'm glad you'll be thinking about him and his testicles!

Haha isnt it nice to know that more people care about his testicles than you thought!! but i will keep him in my prayers!

[Boanerges]

Sorry to hear this and you guys will definately be in my prayers Stephanie!!!!!

[TaylorS]

It was confirmed as of yesterday, they found a tumor *sigh*. He's going in for surgery on Wednesday and from there they will decided what needs to be done, radiation or chemo. The doc kept reminding me that it has a very high success rate, but I've still been in tears off and on. I'm hoping against hope that everything goes well. I feel bad because I'm supposed to be there for him and HE has to console me...pathetic I know! We've been together for 4 years so I've grown attached to him

It sounds like the only "bad" thing that will come of this is that we can't have kids for two years It wasn't bad news for me! Now we have a reason to keep pushing kids off when the family asks (And yes we've been asked about kids! Aren't we supposed to get married first? )

I'm just looking for kind words and support from those who have experienced this or have loved ones who experienced it. I'm sure he'll be ok, but I still worry.

I'm very sorry to hear about your boyfriend. I am a Registered Nurse and I will tell you that it does have an extremely high success rate. So keep your heads up, focus on proper nutrition and staying positive and you'll be making babies in no time (hugs)

[SlitherinSisters]

What happened with me was I started to have pain alot and I mean I wasnt getting hit or anything I would jsut be waling around like walmart or something and just start hurting and I didnt want to go to the doctor for almost a year because I was embarrased and then finally I felt a lump and really freaked out so I went to the hospital one night becuase I was in EXTREME pain. And there ultrasound machine they have there they dont operate at night so I had to be scheduled to come back in the next week for an ultrasound and when I got there the room was filled with pregnant women and I was the only guy there and it was very uncomfortable. You could tell they were wondering what I was doing there. And then when I was called to go back in I got on the table and when they started with the machine somethign happened and it stopped working so someone had to come in and fix it. And when the women checked she told me I had two cyst and I didnt even know about the other one. She also said I have alot of bad tissue there thats been damaged over the years from riding bikes and skating. And she made me an appointment with a specialist and he looked at me and said that 99% of all males have cysts down there but most of them do not ever relize they are there because they do not bother them. He said some will go away some will grow in size and some can be cancerous. But one thing he told me is that they usually do not bother guys and they dont hurt. Well mine hurt really bad sometimes. He told me he didnt think they were cancerous. And sent me on my way. Well I didnt feel comfortable with that because he siad they dont hurt and mine did so I went to another doctor and he is the one that said he wants to keep track of it and check up on me every so often. I get an ultrasound every 3rd visit so its every couple of months. And he said since im so young he doesnt want to operate and take them out but he said if they start to grow or if they continue to cause pain or if he see signs of it becoming cancerous he is going to take them out. Its very uncomfortable for a guy to get an ultrasound although the more I do it the more comfortable Ive become with it. But I do hope everything goes well with your boyfriend from what the doctors have told me though is that its a very simple procedure and testicular cancer has a very high success rate for recovering cancer free. But its always scary when cancer is involved with anybody in any part of there bodys

I'm glad to hear that you are keeping up with everything. I hope everything goes well for you! Good luck with everything, and thank you!

Haha isnt it nice to know that more people care about his testicles than you thought!! but i will keep him in my prayers!

It sure is!!! Thank you very much.

Sorry to hear this and you guys will definately be in my prayers Stephanie!!!!!

Thank you so much!

I'm very sorry to hear about your boyfriend. I am a Registered Nurse and I will tell you that it does have an extremely high success rate. So keep your heads up, focus on proper nutrition and staying positive and you'll be making babies in no time (hugs)

Thank you! It's definitely reassuring to know that the success rate of being cancer free is very high. Wednesday seems like it's taking forever to get here!

[Grace]

Sorry to hear this and testicular cancer has a very high success rate for recovering cancer.

So i think you should recover fast and have a wonder full life.

Grace
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testicular-cancer

[bloodpython19]

Thank you! You guys are making me tear up again! I cried in my Spanish class because I went back to class right after I found out. That was embarrassing, but I sucked it up and was able to continue with class. Everyone probably thought I was a freak. Oh well.

ppl in my class think the same of me cuz im goth.but i ignore them