Looking for kind words, my boyfriend has testicular cancer

[joepythons]

Is the BF OK with you putting this on the world wide webb?

I guess you dont realize that we ARE a family here and can share anything here .

[nevohraalnavnoj]

He's an interesting fellow to say the least!

haha, who are you talking about?


But in all seriousness, he'll pull through and be fine. My thoughts are with you and him.

JonV

[SlitherinSisters]

It's one of the most difficult things to go through together....but....to do it "together" is way better than having to go it alone! And they have made such huge strides in curing cancer!

My husband and I have a couple that are very dear friends...and he went through testicular cancer about twelve years ago...had a massive tumor that had spread into other parts of the abdomen. They got it all cleaned out, and after the rounds of treatments, he was clean and fully recovered and is cancer free to this day.

And while it wasn't the same type, my hubby also had cancer and we went through his surgeries and treatments together. There were scary moments...and horribly tedious moments...and setbacks. But we held each other up through it all....stayed positive and did our best to keep a good sense of humor. He's also fully recovered and cancer-free to this day. (Nine years now, too!) And we're so much stronger and closer as a couple.

Going through it SUCKS. But if you keep your focus on the positives instead of the negatives, you'll both get through it faster than you'd imagine and come out the other side strong and healthy.

Thank you very much. I didn't think about it that way, but it will definitely make us closer. We've been through some tough times in the last couple years, but this is by far the worst. I'm so happy to hear of all the success stories.

Sorry to hear this Isis. BG has had a couple friends with this kind of cancer and everything turned out OK. One of them was over 10 years ago and he's fine.

BG has to ask though. Is the BF OK with you putting this on the world wide webb? When it comes to that area of the bod, men can be a leeetle funny about it. BG might be a leeetle po'd at his gf if she did this. He can't have people making fun of his perfect bod.


BG hopes it turns out OK.

Thanks BG. Keep the success stories coming!

As for if he cares about this being on the web, I highly doubt it. His facebook status pretty much says it all. Although not the "bionic" part. His brother isn't so good at social skills and was so inclined to write on my wall that he will be fine and that I shouldn't think anything less of him as a man As if I of all people would think that....

first of all cancer is NOT a death sentence.i went thru hodgins disease with my ex wife 18 years ago,she's healthy and well today.one of the most rewarding experiences was our involement with a cancer support group.feeling your "feelings" with a group of people who are/where you are at is a very powerful dynamic.i encourage you and your BF to seek out a group.

it may be premature to mention this now but as the years go by you may find this chapter of your life very rewarding and empowering,giving you tools that make life a bit easier to handle.i wish you both the best.

That's a good idea. If he will need chemo I think a support group is a must. I've had family members that have died because of cancer, but that was because they were old and didn't want to go through chemo. I've never had a friend or family member get chemo so we would definitely need people to talk to. I have no idea what radiation entails either. I know he's been looking at forums for testicular cancer, but I don't think he's joined any. It would be nice to know what to expect.

Thank you so much, I think it will be a good thing for us to go through as a couple and definitely a good thing to look back on and see how far we've come.

haha, who are you talking about?


But in all seriousness, he'll pull through and be fine. My thoughts are with you and him.

JonV

Lol I don't want to say too much because Williamsburg is so darn small. I'll have to tell you about him on Sunday maybe!

And thank you Jon!

[SlitherinSisters]

I guess you dont realize that we ARE a family here and can share anything here .

That's why I love this site I love you guys!

[rabernet]

Stephanie - sorry to hear that the two of you are going through this, but a positive attitude truly does go a long way towards successful recovery and it sounds like you guys are already winning that battle!

A very dear co-worker of mine was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer this summer (the most deadly type) and she has dealt with it with humor, and the most amazing grace I have ever had the honor of witnessing. Her last scan showed no signs of the cancer, but she's completing the rounds of chemo (one more round to go) and then will go through 17 days of brain radiation (this type of cancer loves to spread to the brain and your bones, and apparently chemo does NOT reach your brain. It's more preventative than anything.

I'm so pleased that she's going to be returning to work in January, and I can't wait to have my friend back. It has been a scarey ordeal, but our VP set her up with a doctor when she was first diagnosed (my company sponsors a yearly "Sprint for Cancer" 5/10k fundraiser, so lots of connections with doctors and such) and she was an Emory case study with a team of 17 doctors. She joked "how many of you can say that your vice president makes your doctor's appointments for YOU?"

In any case, cancer, if caught early CAN be beaten, and I'm sure that your boyfriend is going to be cancer free in no time!

[SlitherinSisters]

Stephanie - sorry to hear that the two of you are going through this, but a positive attitude truly does go a long way towards successful recovery and it sounds like you guys are already winning that battle!

A very dear co-worker of mine was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer this summer (the most deadly type) and she has dealt with it with humor, and the most amazing grace I have ever had the honor of witnessing. Her last scan showed no signs of the cancer, but she's completing the rounds of chemo (one more round to go) and then will go through 17 days of brain radiation (this type of cancer loves to spread to the brain and your bones, and apparently chemo does NOT reach your brain. It's more preventative than anything.

I'm so pleased that she's going to be returning to work in January, and I can't wait to have my friend back. It has been a scarey ordeal, but our VP set her up with a doctor when she was first diagnosed (my company sponsors a yearly "Sprint for Cancer" 5/10k fundraiser, so lots of connections with doctors and such) and she was an Emory case study with a team of 17 doctors. She joked "how many of you can say that your vice president makes your doctor's appointments for YOU?"

In any case, cancer, if caught early CAN be beaten, and I'm sure that your boyfriend is going to be cancer free in no time!

Thank you so much Robin! It so nice to hear all of these wonderful stories! I'm so glad your friend is doing well. Luckily Blake and I like to joke around a lot. It's been a lot easier for me when he's around because he's so positive about it.

[Denial]

tell him good luck. Im actually going in january to get mine rechecked. I went in june and they told me that I had a cyst that could turn into cancer so they want to check me every so often now and that is the most uncomfortable thing you could ever do.

[blackcrystal22]

He'll be fine. You guys are in this together and his strength along with yours creates a powerful force.

Tell him good luck for me! Just stick by his side and give him as much support as you can.

[Bruce Whitehead]

Aw Isis.

Do not feel bad about your tears and your need for support. Cancer is a scary thing and leaves us feeling pretty powerless and helpless. So I think crying is an appropriate response.

Sexual/reproductive cancers were up till a few years ago cloaked in silence and embarassment. Good on your partner for being able to deal with it frankly. In the early years of the AIDS movement there was an expression `Silence=Death` which basically means if we do not talk about AIDS then we will die from AIDS.

I think it fits for many things.

No one flinches at the mention of breast cancer now, but a lot of people have been mobilized for a lot of years to make sure we can talk about it openly and in so doing, we can save lives. Same with testicular cancer, prostrate, uterine, and colon cancers.

Sounds like you are both in a good space to deal with this, not that anyone should ever have to, but you have each other, and it sounds like you have great family and community around you.

Never hesitate to reach out to them when you need to!
Consider it cashing in on years of xmas and birthday gifts (time for PAYBACK!!!).

I will be thinking good thoughts for your partner and praying-thinking of his testicles... wait a minute, I think that came out wrong!!!

Hugs,
Bruce

[Elise.m]

So sorry to hear this Stephanie You'll be in my thoughts! I deal with hard times with humor, and looking on the bright side. Same for us, my BF and I are constantly being asked when we're going to have kids, and we're not even engaged! Been together for almost 5 years though!

You guys will get through it!