i need help

i want a ball python so bad but my mothere is deathly afraid that if i get one it will get out of the tank any advise to help me convince her to let me get one

I see this kind of post all the time. There isn't much we can recommend, unfortunately. The only thing you can do is talk to her, or wait. You can't try to force her or anything.

I suggest talking about how easy to care for they are and how gentle they are. Talk about their small size. Tell her that most reptile tanks have a place where you can put a padlock so they can't escape.

Good luck my friend.

ive been wanting one for a while but i dont know how to convince her i was thinkin since im turin eighteen and i want to go into herpetology i should be old enough to get one dont you think?

As long as you live with her, you live by her rules. You can always wait until you're out on your own to get one.

yea ha thats so true im gunna try to convince her to let me get one tell her all the details and if it doesnt work just forget about it til im out of here

Also, you might wanna tell her they have no true fangs and even if it were to bite you (Which only happens if stressed or antagonized or feeding) you would only feel a pinch. I have been bitten twice and only once broke skin. You could always go to a pet store and see if she'll handle one. But do you research before buying!

oh sweet alright i never knew about the fang part but yea i've done alot of research about them tho but ya i will tell her about that too and see what she says

You could also research different enclosures, and show her which ones are basically escape-proof (like my glass-front wooden cage that has a sliding lock). Then if you save your own money to buy the cage & snake, she might be more willing to give it a try. Otherwise, like the other posters said, you'll just have to wait until you're on your own. ;)

yea i think if i can its gunna be all my birthday money to get one

Well, how I got my mom to get my a BP (she kept saying no every time I asked because my sis had a BP and it was really mean and wouldn't eat) was telling her facts about them and taking her to the pet store to look at them and handle them. Eventually (with 3 weeks of doing so) she let me get a BP and I've had this BP for a year now. My mom used to say no every time I asked for a snake but when I was 10 she finally let me get one and the one I got was an albino Corn snake.

Btw, to prevent an escape I use these enclosures that come with their own lid. The lid is a screen top and it slides in and locks in place so the snake cannot escape by pushing the lid up. With regular screen tops the lid just come right off but there are these clamps that prevent it. Only one of my snakes has one of the lids but I put a heavy object on the end opposite from the light so the snake cannot lift up the lid.

hmm i might def have to try this out your so lucky you have one ive been wanting one forever yea ive showed her cages that lock and stuff i just need to tlk to her about the snake some more i will def take her too petco

YouTube - So You Want A Reptile ( Convincing Parents)

i didnt need to convince my parents... i got a job, i pay rent for my room, my room my rules :D :banana:

the guy in the video knows his stuff pretty well. and he shows multiple snakes. :D.

oh thanks man ha i should have her watch this or just tell her the things i learn

Just go get it and bring it home..... She will get over it. Just look her straight in the face and say "I do what I want"...... lol What she really gonna do?

ha stew you dont know how many times i thought about doing that but she will be so pissed lol she really couldnt do nothing if i already had it

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Originally Posted by STEW

Just go get it and bring it home..... She will get over it. Just look her straight in the face and say "I do what I want"...... lol What she really gonna do?

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If my kid ever dis-respects me like that in my house then the next thing they will be doing is looking for a new place to live... If they want a say in what happens in the house, they can purchase that voice at a cost of 30% of the monthly household expenses...

I hid a 6' iguana from my parents lol for 2 months. Then I forgot to lock my room one day, and I heard a scream by the end of the scream i was already bookin it down the road lmao.

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ha stew you dont know how many times i thought about doing that but she will be so pissed lol she really couldnt do nothing if i already had it

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You really don't think she could do anything? When I was living at home, if I brought home an animal that my mom said no to, she would have killed it.

Now while I admit most moms aren't at all like mine, your mom could punish you in many ways, or she could get rid of the snake for you. There are plenty of things your mom could do if you just brought it home.

You can talk to her and try to convince her, but I wouldn't bring it home without her telling you its ok. I'd avoid that kind of problem if I were you.

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Originally Posted by Vypyrz

If my kid ever dis-respects me like that in my house then the next thing they will be doing is looking for a new place to live...

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I believe this statement to be only a scare tactic..... As only a handful of parents would even follow through. Your other statement on paying rent, if you would condone the behavior if they paid rent, then you dont really care about the behavior in the first place, you are just trying to keep control which will be lost eventually anyways... I have four kids and I will probably say that garbage to them but unless they came home with a heroin addiction or something along those lines, I would just be like whatever......

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Originally Posted by STEW

I have four kids and I will probably say that garbage to them but unless they came home with a heroin addiction or something along those lines, I would just be like whatever......

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I have two full grown boys, one of which is a mod on this site. I also deal weekly with people with broken and disfuctional homes. I can tell you if your attitude conscerning the little things is "what ever" you will more than likely be facing the larger ones down the road. While having or not having a reptile in the house seems to be a small thing, the real issue isn't the animal, it is the disobediance displayed. Good parents should not base punishment on the subject of the disobediance they should punish because the child was disobediant. Disobediance shows a lack of respect for authority, children need to learn how to follow the rules now so latter they stay out of trouble when that authority is wearing a uniform and carrying a gun.

OMG.... Anyway, back to the topic at hand. Men bickering like women...

When I bought my snake I let my parents know a few days ahead of time that I was getting one. I dont know if they believed me or what but I came home with my Ball Python in a tupperware container.

The second snake I got, Carpet Python, my parents did not know about until about the second day. My mom was not really that mad other then I used money to buy it that I "owed" her.

Just get it and bring it home, put it in a tupperware container in your closet with holes and you are fine. When she eventually finds out about it, you can be like, "Mommy, I have had it for "x" weeks, months, years, without you knowing or it escaping. What seems to be the issue, Mommy?"

So just get the snake! Happy SNAKE DAY!

My mom is deathly afraid of snakes and constantly emails me links to news articles about snakes killing or hurting people or escaping (scare tactic things). Every single time I have to explain to her and educate her that I don't have that kind of snake and my snakes are securely housed and aren't going anywhere.

Will I ever change her mind about them? No. But I have gotten her used to the fact that I like snakes and I will keep owning them. I got my first ball python after I moved out. I told my parents after the fact and they flipped. They told me to return the snake, but there was no way that was happening. I don't live in their house, I pay for my own things and I make my own money to pay for them.

Either wait or just constantly spout snake facts to eventually get your mom used to the idea of having one in the house. It is really just a matter of education.

Don't loose your moms trust by just bringing one home. Its not worth the yelling and fighting and grudges that will occur because of it.

I dont think any pet is worth making your parents upset. Not even mad or anything similar, forget about that. But how sad would she feel If you disrespect her like that? I always thought about that when I was growing up. As first generation Inmigrants, my parents worked very hard to try to give us a normal life style.

I say just wait a bit more.... You are already 18 (or almost there?), Waiting a little bit more wont hurt. :gj:

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Originally Posted by Danounet

I dont think any pet is worth making your parents upset. Not even mad or anything similar, forget about that. But how sad would she feel If you disrespect her like that? I always thought about that when I was growing up. As first generation Inmigrants, my parents worked very hard to try to give us a normal life style.

I say just wait a bit more.... You are already 18 (or almost there?), Waiting a little bit more wont hurt. :gj:

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Well said, you will go far with that kind of attitude

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Originally Posted by knott00

You really don't think she could do anything? When I was living at home, if I brought home an animal that my mom said no to, she would have killed it.

Now while I admit most moms aren't at all like mine, your mom could punish you in many ways, or she could get rid of the snake for you. There are plenty of things your mom could do if you just brought it home.

You can talk to her and try to convince her, but I wouldn't bring it home without her telling you its ok. I'd avoid that kind of problem if I were you.

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yea but my mo wouldnt go in my room at all if i get a snake i would never do it but my mom is scared of them that much

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OMG.... Anyway, back to the topic at hand. Men bickering like women...

When I bought my snake I let my parents know a few days ahead of time that I was getting one. I dont know if they believed me or what but I came home with my Ball Python in a tupperware container.

The second snake I got, Carpet Python, my parents did not know about until about the second day. My mom was not really that mad other then I used money to buy it that I "owed" her.

Just get it and bring it home, put it in a tupperware container in your closet with holes and you are fine. When she eventually finds out about it, you can be like, "Mommy, I have had it for "x" weeks, months, years, without you knowing or it escaping. What seems to be the issue, Mommy?"

So just get the snake! Happy SNAKE DAY!

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haha thnx that would actually be pretty hilarious though i would come home to my mom screaming when she found it lol

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Originally Posted by Kaorte

My mom is deathly afraid of snakes and constantly emails me links to news articles about snakes killing or hurting people or escaping (scare tactic things). Every single time I have to explain to her and educate her that I don't have that kind of snake and my snakes are securely housed and aren't going anywhere.

Will I ever change her mind about them? No. But I have gotten her used to the fact that I like snakes and I will keep owning them. I got my first ball python after I moved out. I told my parents after the fact and they flipped. They told me to return the snake, but there was no way that was happening. I don't live in their house, I pay for my own things and I make my own money to pay for them.

Either wait or just constantly spout snake facts to eventually get your mom used to the idea of having one in the house. It is really just a matter of education.

Don't loose your moms trust by just bringing one home. Its not worth the yelling and fighting and grudges that will occur because of it.

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thats cool yea i know i would never do anything like that because me and my mom are really close and she woould hate me if i did something like thta

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Originally Posted by Danounet

I dont think any pet is worth making your parents upset. Not even mad or anything similar, forget about that. But how sad would she feel If you disrespect her like that? I always thought about that when I was growing up. As first generation Inmigrants, my parents worked very hard to try to give us a normal life style.

I say just wait a bit more.... You are already 18 (or almost there?), Waiting a little bit more wont hurt. :gj:

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you know i think im just gunna end up waiting til i move out or something which if i find a job should be pretty soon so yea i guess i can wait

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Originally Posted by STEW

I believe this statement to be only a scare tactic..... As only a handful of parents would even follow through. Your other statement on paying rent, if you would condone the behavior if they paid rent, then you dont really care about the behavior in the first place, you are just trying to keep control which will be lost eventually anyways... I have four kids and I will probably say that garbage to them but unless they came home with a heroin addiction or something along those lines, I would just be like whatever......

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Control issue.. yes
scare tactic... no
For me, it's simple. My house, my rules. Don't like it, leave


JLOWE, I would encourage you to try and convince your mom by presenting her with the facts and trying to get her to interact with a little bp at a pet store. Maybe print off some of those "cute" baby bp pics have and leave them laying around. As a last resort, name the cutest, most relaxed bp at the pet store after your mom then introduce them.

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Originally Posted by Vypyrz

Control issue.. yes
scare tactic... no
For me, it's simple. My house, my rules. Don't like it, leave


JLOWE, I would encourage you to try and convince your mom by presenting her with the facts and trying to get her to interact with a little bp at a pet store. Maybe print off some of those "cute" baby bp pics have and leave them laying around. As a last resort, name the cutest, most relaxed bp at the pet store after your mom then introduce them.

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that would prob help alot i know there is so little i can do but i think the most part is she is scared of it biting her but the facts should help with that and i plan on taking her to the pet store down the street so she can see how calm they are

Hey Jlowe, just letting you know, you can edit your posts within 10 minutes of the original post time. You can even multi quote the post, instead of having to do 4 posts in a row.

Just a heads up. :)

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Hey Jlowe, just letting you know, you can edit your posts within 10 minutes of the original post time. You can even multi quote the post, instead of having to do 4 posts in a row.

Just a heads up. :)

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oh sweet thnx

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Originally Posted by tonkatoyman

I have two full grown boys, one of which is a mod on this site. I also deal weekly with people with broken and disfuctional homes. I can tell you if your attitude conscerning the little things is "what ever" you will more than likely be facing the larger ones down the road. While having or not having a reptile in the house seems to be a small thing, the real issue isn't the animal, it is the disobediance displayed. Good parents should not base punishment on the subject of the disobediance they should punish because the child was disobediant. Disobediance shows a lack of respect for authority, children need to learn how to follow the rules now so latter they stay out of trouble when that authority is wearing a uniform and carrying a gun.

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My life lesson on parenting has been noted pops...... You go have a cafe latte and Im going to go set my kids up to be sharks instead of bait fish.....

To the original poster, you do what you do, convincing your mom to get a snake is probably not going to happen....On a real note since I was being a lil to much of myself in the first post. Make her a proposition or something along the lines of a business type deal where you both end up with something you are wanting out of the other.