Possible tattoo - need ideas

Hey everybody ... So three weeks ago my girlfriend and I split up. Honestly I am not entirely sure what caused her to change her mind about being in a relationship with me. I thought things were going wonderfully and I had actually even bought a ring but hadn't given it to her yet. Needless to say I have been a little distraught and just been tring to keep up with school and the animals. The thought of getting a tattoo has crossed my mind recently. Something that says or symbolizes remembrance. I want to remember the happiness, my first love, my mistakes, and my faith that God has a plan for us. I want something small and probably in a place that I could cover up easily for interviews and such. Does anybody have any thoughts or ideas? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks and love.

A great big heart with a dagger through it. Right in the middle of your chest.

Or, wait at LEAST a couple of months before you add art work that may well lose some signifigance in the coming years.

Bummer about the chick though.

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Originally Posted by wilomn

A great big heart with a dagger through it. Right in the middle of your chest.

Or, wait at LEAST a couple of months before you add art work that may well lose some signifigance in the coming years.

Bummer about the chick though.

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Ha! Got a pretty good chuckle out of that. Yes I am planning on waiting 6 months or so to see how I feel about it then. I'm leaning in the direction of a cross with the word remember worked into or around it somehow.

So this chick dumps you for no apparant reason when things seem to be going wonderfly... and your response to that is to declair that god has a plan for the two of you.... and that you should get a tattoo in rememberence of your happiness and love?????

Dude, not trying to sound like a jerk, but PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER! You sound like one of those crazy stalker wack-jobs! Forget the tatoo. Go out and get yourself some strange... Don't even talk to this chick any more. In time you will clearly understand why she ran away when everything was "going wonderfly" in the relationship. Use that new knowledge and understanding towards the new chick. Leave this old one alone!

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Originally Posted by wilomn

A great big heart with a dagger through it. Right in the middle of your chest.

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This.

Now is probably the wrong time to be getting a tattoo. I would wait, it's not a decision that can be rescinded.

Andrew~

I am sorry for your broken heart. It hurts.

As for your tat, it really needs to come from within yourself. No one else ought to suggest it or design it. These designs, or images, are already under our skin and getting a tat just brings them to the surface.

Take time for yourself. Take care of yourself. A tat may or may not be in your future; but only you will figure that out :hug:

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Originally Posted by mcavana

So this chick dumps you for no apparant reason when things seem to be going wonderfly... and your response to that is to declair that god has a plan for the two of you.... and that you should get a tattoo in rememberence of your happiness and love?????

Dude, not trying to sound like a jerk, but PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER! You sound like one of those crazy stalker wack-jobs! Forget the tatoo. Go out and get yourself some strange... Don't even talk to this chick any more. In time you will clearly understand why she ran away when everything was "going wonderfly" in the relationship. Use that new knowledge and understanding towards the new chick. Leave this old one alone!

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Mike....dude!...chill! I do believe Andrew meant "God has a plan for us" in the universal sense that God has a plan for everyone...not in the "I know God means for me and this girl to be together so I'll deny every other reality" sense. In times of grief and heartache and confusion, faith in God is what gets many of us through and it's not something anyone else needs to criticize. God has a plan for Andrew's life (whether YOU believe that or not is completely irrelevant) and Andrew can draw comfort in the knowledge that that plan is far better than anything we could figure out ourselves, even if it doesn't include someone we thought we were in love with.

It sounds to me like Andrew is handling things pretty well, all things considered. He's looking for a way to express the complicated emotions and lessons he is experiencing right now and contemplating a tat. I don't find that idea far-fetched at all.

I do agree with others that a time of high stress and emotional upheaval is NOT the best time to be making decisions about permanent things...but he's even said he's not just rushing out to do it right away, so I really don't think we have anything to worry about here.

Andrew.....I'm sorry things didn't work out the way you expected. Give it time and wait and see what God has in store for you. It's always way better than we ever thought. :hug:

so there was obviously a big problem in the relationship at the time that you bought her a ring because she broke up with you...and you didn't even notice. it would def. creep me out if my first b/f bought me a ring. how long were you guys dating and how old are you two? don't get over zealous, you will be labled a stalker. as for the tattoo...it's pretty stalker too. if she broke up with you, she doesn't want you to affiliate yourself with her any more. she's tryign to get away.

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Originally Posted by JLC

Mike....dude!...chill! I do believe Andrew meant "God has a plan for us" in the universal sense that God has a plan for everyone...not in the "I know God means for me and this girl to be together so I'll deny every other reality" sense. In times of grief and heartache and confusion, faith in God is what gets many of us through and it's not something anyone else needs to criticize. God has a plan for Andrew's life (whether YOU believe thatw or not is completely irrelevant) and Andrew can draw comfort in the knowledge that that plan is far better than anything we could figure out ourselves, even if it doesn't include someone we thought we were in love with.

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So let me get this right... me pointing out that he is making himself look like a psycho stalker wack-job is somehow questioning his religion? Are you serious???!!!!

For the record, Andrew... I am not suggesting that you are a Psycho stalker... or anything else negative for that mattter... I am only pointing out what you are making yourself look like! come back to this thread in about a year.... and see who you agree with then!

Cheers! :8:

First true loves are the hardest to get over. It took me years to fully heal from mine.

Mike, show some respect.

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Originally Posted by mcavana

So let me get this right... me pointing out that he is making himself look like a psycho stalker wack-job is somehow questioning his religion? Are you serious???!!!!

For the record, Andrew... I am not suggesting that you are a Psycho stalker... or anything else negative for that mattter... I am only pointing out what you are making yourself look like! come back to this thread in about a year.... and see who you agree with then!

Cheers! :8:

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It certainly sounded like you were questioning the sanity of his statement about God having a plan...AND you're assuming he has "psycho-stalking whack-job intentions". All I was trying to say is that it doesn't sound like that at all, unless that's the sort of thing you WANT to read into it.

He didn't say he was trying to stay in touch with her or trying to follow her anywhere. He didn't run out and buy a ring after she broke up with him. He didn't say he wanted her portrait inked across his back, or even her initials hidden in some design. He wanted something to REMIND him of the sweetness of first love...and of the lessons he's learned and is still learning from the pain he's going through....as well as something that represents his faith that God has a better plan for his life.

Where the heck do you get psycho-stalking-whack-job from that? Sheeesh.

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Originally Posted by AndrewGeibel

Hey everybody ... So three weeks ago my girlfriend and I split up. Honestly I am not entirely sure what caused her to change her mind about being in a relationship with me. I thought things were going wonderfully and I had actually even bought a ring but hadn't given it to her yet. Needless to say I have been a little distraught and just been tring to keep up with school and the animals. The thought of getting a tattoo has crossed my mind recently. Something that says or symbolizes remembrance. I want to remember the happiness, my first love, my mistakes, and my faith that God has a plan for us. I want something small and probably in a place that I could cover up easily for interviews and such. Does anybody have any thoughts or ideas? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks and love.

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I have two tats. My advice echos some of the other on the board, don't do it right now. I think the first is the hardest. Give yourself time to think of or find a design you like, meaning aside. Then think about it for at least another 6 months. Then if you still are up for it then do it. Tats really aren't the biggest deal in the world IMO, but just don't do it when you're emotionally charged, like now, and end up doing something you don't like.

If you want to get something religious-inspired, you could get a small triquetra (trinity knot) or something like that. It was my first. If you want something journey related, maybe a nautical star.

Just think about it is all.

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Originally Posted by JLC

Where the heck do you get psycho-stalking-whack-job from that? Sheeesh.

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Here is an answer.. Imagine this.

So You started dating this guy.... went with him for a while, but he was totally clueless. You were very unhappy in the relationship and gave him lots of hints that you were miserable, but he didn't pay attention. All the way up to the end he probably had no idea just how unhappy you were. In fact, he probably thought everything was going wonderfuly.

Towards the end you did not like him at ALL romanticly. You actually stopped liking him that way a while ago, and just brough yourself to the point of dumping him even though you knew it was going to break his heart. You dump him. No surprise to you, he doesnt take it very well at all because he completely ignored all your hints, and really did believe everything was going wonderfly in the relationship.I t was a total surprise to him!!!

Then you find out that he is posting about the relationship on a web forum... His thread on the snake forum says that he loves you, his first love, and believes god has a plan for the two of you... that has already bought a ring for you. He explains that he is thinking about getting a tattoo in rememberence of you... something that says or symbolizes remembrance. He want to remember the happiness, his first love, his mistakes.


Yes Judy, this can easily be seen as psycho stalker type behavior. What would you think if the story above happened to you? would you be flattered or scared? Nevermind.

My origional reply to him should have been a PM. Maybe it is a guy thing.

Mike

How are you going to explain to your future wife a tattoo that signifies an ex girlfriend? Remembrance tattoos are for the deceased, not ex girlfriends

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Originally Posted by smith285

how are you going to explain to your future wife a tattoo that signifies an ex girlfriend? Remembrance tattoos are for the deceased, not ex girlfriends

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exactly!

I have 7 tats, and the best time to get one is when you want one.

My suggestion, hock the ring, head to the tattoo place, pick one you like, have it done, then head to the nearest strip club and show it off!

I don't think they come much more cynical than me.

Even I didn't read this guy as bemoaning his fate hoping to catch a glimpse of her shadow on a building as he drives past for the 30th time that day.

vana, just because it went that way for you doesn't mean it has to for everyone.

LilIndianWench, you're what, 17? Good head on those little white shoulders.

As for the rest of the comments, guys, did you actually read what he wrote or did you react to what you read?

I got no bad vibes from this guy at all. Introspection, faith, hope, sadness and determination to learn and remember and respect.

How did I get there if you all didn't?

Summa y'all needs to do some introspectionalizationing.

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Getting a tattoo to symbolize happiness and mistakes and faith in God is one thing, if it about all those things as a whole. Getting a tattoo that symbolizes the happiness and mistakes in a single relationship and how God got you through a breakup is another. I'm not sure which he's going for, but my advice is to be smart about it. Getting a cross that says "remember" is a good idea, granted it's not simply meaning "remember the ex-gf." If it means "remember everything in life that God has helped you through," then that's a great idea.

Just remember that tattoos are forever and in 30 years you'll still get asked what the tattoo symbolizes and you better like the answer in 30 years as much as you like the answer in 30 days

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Originally Posted by wilomn

LilIndianWench, you're what, 17? Good head on those little white shoulders

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Do you think that comment is acceptable??? Really. I want to know if you think that's cool?

Wait on a tat brotha, don't just go into a parlor and pick a design out. Make it your own. Go full custom. I've spent years planning my tatty's and I couldn't be any happier with how they've all turned out. My tattoo's are all rooted in religion but if I was you I wouldn't get one symbolizing the relationship that you had that didn't work out (Sorry about that by the way) think out your ink man, then when you go get it done you'll be happy that you waited.

Once again sorry to hear about you and your girl, I went through some stuff like that and trust me it's better to have loved and lost then spend all your time on one that's not on your level.

I'm pro ink for sure so think it out, get something meaningful and awesome and then post pics!

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Originally Posted by Slim

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Do you think that comment is acceptable??? Really. I want to know if you think that's cool?

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Actually, it is. She and I have joked about it before.

Thanks for your concern though.

Haha Ok Mike yes I should have worded that better. I see where that would have looked stalkerish if interpreted the way you did. I meant that God has a plan for us as people ... not the two of us. Not me and the girl. I haven't talked to her in three weeks and don't plan on getting back together with her. I can't claim that I have completely moved on but I feel that I am well on my way there. From what I heard from other people she "found someone else" and that is what caused this sudden change. Since that seems to be the case I wouldn't get back together with her for anything. Clearly I am going to wait on getting a tattoo. But I was thinking about it for maybe six months in the future.

To everybody ... sorry I wasn't here to correct the misinterpretation sooner. I was driving from Oklahoma to Indiana. Hope this clears things up.

As for the remembrance part I should have worded that more clearly too. It is more to remind myself that God has a plan for me and even if things seem to suck sometimes it is still all part of his plan.

Getting a tat to remember an ex is a seriously bad idea. Your opinion of her is going to change over time and its probably not going to be for the better.

It sucks when relationships end but you need to put it behind you and move on.

Ya guys and girls I'm really sorry about the confusion. I should have reread my first post after I typed it. I didn't and I apologize for that. I hope everything is cleared up.

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Originally Posted by AndrewGeibel

As for the remembrance part I should have worded that more clearly too. It is more to remind myself that God has a plan for me and even if things seem to suck sometimes it is still all part of his plan.

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I like that idea then

You are obviously a good guy with good intentions. Words of wisdom.... I have lots of tattoos. One thing I learned to be very true...

If you have to ask someone else what tattoo you should get, then your not ready. This is one of the few things in life you really should come up with / choose yourself.

Best of luck. If you have a good heart then soon enough you will find someone that can see that and is worthy of it.

Mike

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Originally Posted by mcavana

You are obviously a good guy with good intentions. Words of wisdom.... I have lots of tattoos. One thing I learned to be very true...

If you have to ask someone else what tattoo you should get, then your not ready. This is one of the few things in life you really should come up with / choose yourself.

Best of luck. If you have a good heart then soon enough you will find someone that can see that and is worthy of it.

Mike

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Thank you for understanding my rewording of things and for the great advice on tattoos. If I end up up getting one in the future I will definitely upload some pictures.

Dude theres a ton of women out there dont sweat it. As for getting a tatoo over the girl all its going to do is remind you of her, go out and get yourself some and you will forget her:banana::banana:

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Originally Posted by mcavana

If you have to ask someone else what tattoo you should get, then your not ready

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Andrew, this is very sage advice...now GO out there and get that Tat!!!!:rofl:

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Originally Posted by Slim

Andrew, this is very sage advice...now GO out there and get that Tat!!!!:rofl:

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Haha! Ok give me some time and if I come up with something I want I will come back with pictures. Thank you guys for your advice.

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Originally Posted by Slim

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Do you think that comment is acceptable??? Really. I want to know if you think that's cool?

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Aww look at me bumming around not following up on threads!

As the Man says, it comes across exactly how he wants it to sound, with out actually being as it comes across.

Clear as mud! :8:

He likes to show his power over me by giving me a nickname he is fond of. It's a good thing he doesn't have a strand of my hair...

Chicks suck dude....end of story!

Sorry for what your goin through.

I dated a girl one time for 2 years, she was cheating on me for 6 months at the end of our relationship. I wish that THAT went as smooth as yours.

Better it happen now than after the ring was on her finger no?

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Originally Posted by Patrick Long

Chicks suck dude....end of story!

Sorry for what your goin through.

I dated a girl one time for 2 years, she was cheating on me for 6 months at the end of our relationship. I wish that THAT went as smooth as yours.

Better it happen now than after the ring was on her finger no?

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Very true man. So at least I have some money in my pocket now from selling the ring. Figured I would pick up a two more boas.

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Originally Posted by AndrewGeibel

Very true man. So at least I have some money in my pocket now from selling the ring. Figured I would pick up a two more boas.

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See, now your thinkin clearly brudda!!!!!

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Originally Posted by Patrick Long

See, now your thinkin clearly brudda!!!!!

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I actually have already closed a deal with one of the members here on two boas and I am picking them up this Saturday! I'm pretty pumped actually.

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Originally Posted by AndrewGeibel

I actually have already closed a deal with one of the members here on two boas and I am picking them up this Saturday! I'm pretty pumped actually.

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That sounds like a much more worthwhile purchase. Women are a pain in the rear. -Shrugs.-

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Originally Posted by AndrewGeibel

I actually have already closed a deal with one of the members here on two boas and I am picking them up this Saturday! I'm pretty pumped actually.

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Wheres my boas at bro? Ill PM you my addy!

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Originally Posted by Patrick Long

Wheres my boas at bro? Ill PM you my addy!

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Haha. OK.

Sorry to hear about everything, Andrew. And sorry for everybody jumping on you. Girls are insane. I am one, I should know. Though I don't really get along with most of them exactly because they ARE insane...

Anyway, for future reference, I would suggest not getting into "the ring thing" until you've talked it over and decide it's something you both want. I've been with my current boyfriend (who is also my first and hopefully my last) for over three years. We've talked it over and as long as everything continues to go well, we would like to get married. But I have told him that if he asks me before I'm done with school that I'm not going to be ready - I would tell him no. Maybe it takes away from the surprise of "popping the question" or whatever. But I'd much rather be straight forward and honest with him. I think something big like that is something both parties should discuss.

Best of luck with future relationships. Don't jump into anything. Just be patient. ;)

agree with 150%

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Sorry to hear about everything, Andrew. And sorry for everybody jumping on you. Girls are insane. I am one, I should know. Though I don't really get along with most of them exactly because they ARE insane...

Anyway, for future reference, I would suggest not getting into "the ring thing" until you've talked it over and decide it's something you both want. I've been with my current boyfriend (who is also my first and hopefully my last) for over three years. We've talked it over and as long as everything continues to go well, we would like to get married. But I have told him that if he asks me before I'm done with school that I'm not going to be ready - I would tell him no. Maybe it takes away from the surprise of "popping the question" or whatever. But I'd much rather be straight forward and honest with him. I think something big like that is something both parties should discuss.

Best of luck with future relationships. Don't jump into anything. Just be patient. ;)

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Thank you for the advice. No worries about people jumping on me because I really should have proofread what I was typing. I can easily see how it would have been misinterpreted. I also think you are completely right about the ring thing. At least I hadn't given it to her yet or anything. I'm sure someone that is right for me will come along at some point in the future.