My fiance wants to make our cat our best man.

We were discussing who should be my fiance's best man
and I jokingly mentioned "Make Boo your best man, you can put him in a tuxedo, and have him on a stool at the alter, it'll be great" and he's like
"THAT'S A GREAT IDEA"
He knows how important Boo is to me, he'll be 9 in august and he'd been with me since I was 9. He was the offspring of a cat I had when I was 7 who is still alive, but doesn't live with us because when we moved, she walked miles back to our old house every time, so our neighbor said he'd take care of her for us, since it made her happy.
I was like
"I was just joking" and he's like "Yeah, but I'm not, all of my friends are [jerks] anyway"
Opinions? :P

Children shouldn't be getting married.

Lol, my sister's ring bearer was her blue heeler. Not sure about a cat as a best man but if that would make you happy, go for it, it's your day. If your really uncomfortable with the idea then say so and surly something else can be worked out. Nikki did great as the ring bearer, but all the people did make her a little nervous, she wouldn't go back to her seat and instead followed behind my sister the rest of the ceremony. It was very fun and memorable : ).

She didnt ask your opinion on her age. Plus you never kbow how long till her weddinng.
I think having the best man as a cat would be cute :) or at least have the human best man hod him mayve.

there has to be someone close to him.

Lol, I would totally do that, that's awsome. If your cat wouldn't be comfortable though then I wouldn't do it... think about the kitty. :)

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Originally Posted by wilomn

Children shouldn't be getting married.

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A) We don't plan on getting married for at least 3 more years
B) We've been together for four.
C) We are both financially secure

So what's the problem?
I didn't realize there was an age limit after you're legally an adult to get married and that you had to be together for more than that to know if you love them/want to spend your life with them.
He's the only person I've ever dated, will date, want to date, and after years of dating someone, I think it becomes easy to know if you'll be willing to spend your life with them or not.

The only problem I can see is that if you're (presumably by the age of your cat) 18 and have been with the same person since you were 14, you probably haven't tested the waters to see what's out there all that much. I think it's hard to know if you really love someone until you've been with a lot of people you definitely do not love.

However, no one can predict the future to know how happy your marriage will be, so congratulations. I'm not sure about the cat as best man though. It seems to me something that will be funny in the moment and for a year or so, but when you watch the wedding video in a decade will seem a bit kitchy.

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Originally Posted by Bellatrix_LeSnake

The only problem I can see is that if you're (presumably by the age of your cat) 18 and have been with the same person since you were 14, you probably haven't tested the waters to see what's out there all that much. I think it's hard to know if you really love someone until you've been with a lot of people you definitely do not love.

However, no one can predict the future to know how happy your marriage will be, so congratulations. I'm not sure about the cat as best man though. It seems to me something that will be funny in the moment and for a year or so, but when you watch the wedding video in a decade will seem a bit kitchy.

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The problem with that is, I've never really been interested in anyone else.
While everyone else in my class was chasing boys, I was uninterested, I just didn't see the point of dating with no feeling attached to it, and anyone who was interested in me were promptly turned down. (And I was called all sort of nasty names like the C and B words, along with stuck up for that reason)
My fiance and I started out as friends and we moved up from there.
I understand what you mean, though, if it were the other way around, and someone my age was engaged, I'd think "Are you sure you know what you're getting into?". You're not the first to tell me this, and I appreciate advice, I just don't like the idea of someone telling me I shouldn't do something without knowing the exact situation.

He's one of those guys I literally cannot picture myself with anyone else. It's hard to explain to someone who doesn't share the same feelings, especially as young as we are. :rolleyes:

Stupid timer :(
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I'll admit that we're kids, too. Even though the law says we're adults, we know we haven't fully mentally matured, and that's why we're waiting.

We go together like white on rice, peas and carrots, wile e coyote and road runner.
And we're really proud of the fact that we got it right on the first try, and that we've had the experience of watching each other learn and grow through the past few years. Which, believe it or not, some of the stupid stuff we used to do as early high schoolers we look back on now like "What were we thinking?"

And we've been to hell and back with some things I rather not go into detail with and stuck through it no matter what.
It's very easy to assume that we don't know what the heck we're doing, I understand that, but I know there are exceptions, I've seen it.

I believe people should be on their own for a bit before committing to another person to find out who they really are. Having said that, my husband is the only guy I dated, we knew each other online for four years, met in person twice and he moved out here seven months later, we where married five months after that. Would have been three if his parents could have came earlier! I was 21 : ). It really depends on the individual, at 18 I knew if he ever moved into my area we would make it work. Apperantly, I found out recently, he told my Mom for four years that he was going to marry me!

: D My mom actually masterminded getting him from NY to Washington State for a visit to see how we hit it off in RL (real life). His parents had no clue until my Mom called them! They toned him out when he talked about his gaming friends.

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The problem with that is, I've never really been interested in anyone else.
While everyone else in my class was chasing boys, I was uninterested, I just didn't see the point of dating with no feeling attached to it, and anyone who was interested in me were promptly turned down. (And I was called all sort of nasty names like the C and B words, along with stuck up for that reason)
My fiance and I started out as friends and we moved up from there.
I understand what you mean, though, if it were the other way around, and someone my age was engaged, I'd think "Are you sure you know what you're getting into?". You're not the first to tell me this, and I appreciate advice, I just don't like the idea of someone telling me I shouldn't do something without knowing the exact situation.

He's one of those guys I literally cannot picture myself with anyone else. It's hard to explain to someone who doesn't share the same feelings, especially as young as we are. :rolleyes:

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Like us, it wasn't a question of if we would get married, just when. He just fit, I couldn't see not talking to him every day, and within a few hours of seeing him I couldn't not see him being a part of my life. Dang, it is hard to explain... Having him there was natural, right, and couldn't be any other way once you see what could be. Good grief, sounds like romantic nonsense put that way. Natural is closest for me to describe it as, meant for each other.

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Like us, it wasn't a question of if we would get married, just when. He just fit, I couldn't see not talking to him every day, and within a few hours of seeing him I couldn't not see him being a part of my life. Dang, it is hard to explain... Having him there was natural, right, and couldn't be any other way once you see what could be. Good grief, sounds like romantic nonsense put that way. Natural is closest for me to describe it as, meant for each other.

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I always love hearing about online relationships the work out since most people have a negative opinion towards them, I love it when they are full grown.

and I know, it sounds all good in your head, but when you put it into words it sounds like blubbery nonsense.

As for the cat, I am not so sure he/she will enjoy it. Most cats don't like a lot of people etc. And in 3 years your fiance might make a new friend who is not a "jerk" and want him as a best man. Plus cats give lousy speeches :P

As for your age. Who cares, you are an adult. Good for you for not running around with lots of guys.
Who is to say what is right or wrong for you.

And if you are still a member here in 3 years, then post some wedding pics :)

Good luck to both of you :banana:

I don't know when this question sidetracked into a debate about the appropriate age to marry..

As for the cat, I think it's weird..

3 years is a long time. I wouldn't do any planning until you guys are ready to start setting dates. In my experience, you do the most growing/ changing between 18 - 21. Your mindset is going to change a lot over the next few years.

Cheers,
Chris.

I love my cats, so them in a wedding wouldn't be to off. But not as a best man. That would be a person. But maybe just there in a tux.

As far as getting married that young - Imo, people still have a lot of growing up to do at 18. Most people for about the next 5. And people change. Why don't you just enjoy each other, don't talk marriage until a few years down the road and see what happens.

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Okay I know I wasn't going to talk about the marriage aspect of this post but meh, I'm bored.

I've been with my gf for 6 years going on 7, we've been together since we were 16 and we are way different now than we were then. Both individually and together. We've lived together for 2 years now, and frankly we're still not even considering marriage. It will happen eventually but why are you going to rush into something so final. Enjoy each other and see how you grow. If you still feel the same way in a few years than that's awesome. But that's when you should be making plans. I don't believe you can fully know someone until you've lived with them. And I am the kind of person that doesn't believe in divorce.

I'm not sure about the cat as best man though. I think it's hard to know if you really love someone until you've been with a lot of people you definitely do not love.

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Originally Posted by Sama

Good grief, sounds like romantic nonsense put that way.

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One month into a relationship in college, I "knew", and really enlightened previous relationships where in hindsight that "well, I'm pretty uncertain about our future" should have been quite a bit more certain. Nonsense or not, it worked out well for me.

Still, we've taken the smart road I think, and while hearts can change in an instant it takes the brain much longer to adjust. Here it is seven and a half years later. We'll be going engagement ring shopping together soon.

To the OP: In this day and age of the internet, I actually am surprised I don't see more cats as best men. Maybe make it a hipster-costume wedding, and say that your cat is "ironically" your best man, even if it isn't.

Regardless, if the wedding is years away, give it some time. I've changed my groomsman plans a few times simply because not everyone will stay in a position to fill that role.

How are you both financially stable at 18??

Also whats gonna happen when its time for the best mans speech?

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I think the issue of being too young and asking the internet if having a cat as a best man is a good idea go hand in hand.

How isolated must you have this boy if he has nobody closer to him than YOUR cat? He's 18? He has no idea what he wants and if he never takes the time by himself to figure it out he'll suddenly realize that one day and run hard and fast.

Sorry for being the grumpy guy expressing his opinion on the net, but this has drain on society written all over it. I hope you're not thinking about having children at this point.

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I think the issue of being too young and asking the internet if having a cat as a best man is a good idea go hand in hand.

How isolated must you have this boy if he has nobody closer to him than YOUR cat? He's 18? He has no idea what he wants and if he never takes the time by himself to figure it out he'll suddenly realize that one day and run hard and fast.

Sorry for being the grumpy guy expressing his opinion on the net, but this has drain on society written all over it. I hope you're not thinking about having children at this point.

I am not going to get into the age thing, there is a whole debate there. I will say, though, that I tend to take issue with people saying that you "have" to date others first or "have" to be alone for a while before marrying. This may be true for some people but is not a hard rule. My husband and I were together for almost 8 years before we married, and neither of us really dated before. The idea that we shouldn't be together because we didn't try out others first sort of gets to me. What's true for one person isn't true for everyone.

As far as the cat thing goes, I think that A) a cat is almost always a bad idea with a ton of people around. They tend not to listen to people at the best of times and B) your fiancée has three years. I have made a lot of good friends in three years.

I personally don't think it's a good idea. (Just referring to the cat here).

As cool as it may sound, there is SO much that can go wrong. You'd likely need to hire someone to make sure the cat stays put, the cat could get nervous, try to bolt, see something that's more interesting to him than your wedding and try to wander off, etc. etc.

I could see if it was a dog. Dogs (depending on the individual) live to please their people and will do just about everything for them. Cats... well - WE are THEIR slaves. As far as they're concerned, you are there to pet them at their will and fill their bowl and adhere to their will - not the other way around.

I foster for a cat rescue, along with owning my own cat. My cat is the most chill, mellow, 'whatever-to-the-world' cat I have EVER seen. There is no way ANY cat (of the 80ish we've fostered) or my cat would be willing to put up with that.

Whoah, this thread made me way angrier than it should have...why on earth is everyone jumping on her age? She's an adult, and I don't think anyone asked for your opinions...?

OP, I think it's an awesome idea, but have to agree that it probably wouldn't be the sensible thing- BUT- it really depends on the cat. For instance, I once had a wonderful, laid-back people-pleasing cat who rode around on people's shoulders, and this would have been right up his alley.

Also, congrats on your engagement! ^_^ Don't let the fuddie-duddies get to you. Last time I checked, this was a forum geared toward animal advice, and not relationship advice. So, yeah. They can take a hike. ;)

It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's a good idea. What if your cat gets spooked and runs away? Kind of puts a damper on the wedding.

Ps. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials :fest:

Cats rarely do what you want them to do... It's all about making them think they're the boss, haha. He'd probably make it half way down the aisle, sit down and lick himself! Great wedding photo op!

That doesn't mean a picture of cat in a bowtie wouldn't be the cutest darned thing ever. He can still be an "honorary" Best Man!


And the age thing? I have a friend of mine who has been with her husband for over a dozen years. They've been together since high school, have only been with each other, have two amazingly beautiful girls, own their own home, have great jobs, are over the age of 30 and are ridiculously in love with each other after all this time, so much so it's almost sickening (but not, ya know?). I have another friend who is not quite as old (mid-later 20's), but has been with her husband for about 7 years now. Same thing. If I married the person I dated in high school or in my early 20's I'd be divorced twice over! But that doesn't mean a relationship like yours can't exist. For me, I waited until almost 30. It's what worked for me. You do what works for you and makes you happy.

guys this thread is almost a year old..

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guys this thread is almost a year old..

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Whoah, how did I miss that... :oops:

Lol funniest thing ever...necromancy of old threads is always fun

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Originally Posted by TheSnakeGeek

guys this thread is almost a year old..

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Wonder if they're still considering the cat as the best man? Or marriage. A lot changes in a year.