Inconsiderate People

Thsi is just me venting...

So my wife's birthday is this Friday. We had plans to celebrate. And now we don't. Her work schedule has changed 3 times in a week. First she had Friday off. Then she didn't. Then she did. And now today, she doesn't again. And she has to work till closing which is 9pm and too late to do anything.

I am pretty ticked off about it and so is she. But what can we do? We need the money from her job so I can't tell her to just quit. I'd sure like to tell the scheduling person what for! Jerk!

Done.

Man. I used to work for a place like that, and after leaving, I found out that re-scheduling like that is typically against most 'rules' in place by labor boards. Typically you need at least a weeks notice for your shifts, unless you have agreed to be on call and agree to the changes made. In my area, it's 2 weeks, typically.

Depending on the company (I won't ask), you should consider calling in to someone higher than the person scheduling and lodge a complaint. Don't settle for the: "Things change and people have to adapt because they need to" BS. I used to be given that run-around. When I started my new job (government) and spoke with the HR lady about previous problems at my last job, I was informed than many of their practices go against policies and labor codes in place to protect employees from unreasonable expectations.

Definitely raise a fuss, if you are able. That type of re-scheduling is unacceptable. A tweak here or there, yes, I can understand. Full re-scheduling.. That's not your girl's fault and she shouldn't have to put up with someone else's inconsistencies.

In CA you need to have 1 weeks sched. posted. If they decide to change if you technically dont have to work all they can do is ask you if you can work.

Be happy she has a job, there's quite a few people who'd kill to have a work schedule at all.

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Originally Posted by LGray23

Be happy she has a job, there's quite a few people who'd kill to have a work schedule at all.

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Agree 100%. Stressing over this is not worth your wife becoming disgruntled at work and losing that income.

It's just a day and it won't have any less meaning if it's celebrated a little bit late. Hell, I haven't celebrated my birthday in over a decade and I'm alive and kicking.

Set up something nice to do after work but at home

Surprise her and prepare a nice dinner for when she comes home from work...or plan something really fun for over the weekend.

Working retail, I can understand your wife's frustration. Been there plenty of times where I've gotten rescheduled. Just go with the flow and set up something nice. Besides, some of the best things are the ones that aren't planned out ahead of time.

just have something like dinner and a gift ready for when she comes home

Flexibility is one of the keys to a happy life. ;) Yeah, it's frustrating, but things are a lot less stressful if you learn to take stuff like that in stride.

You don't have to cancel celebrating her birthday, just because you can't match up the celebration with an exact day on the calendar. It's not about the date...it's about HER and your joy that she was born at all. ;) So plan a nice surprise for the day after...or the day before...or whatever fits best.

20+ years in the military, and I've learned that except for departures on deployment and returns home, dates on the calendar mean very little. It's about the people. :)

As lame as that is, i wouldnt worry about it. Shes lucky she has a job. If I were YOU, I would cook her favorite meal and have it ready for her when she gets home. Buy her favorite flowers or chocolates or ball python lol. Have some romantic music playing, light some candles, rose petals on the bed... You know where im going with this ;)

Didn't she just get this job? I would be happy she has one. And just do something special for her when she gets home. Maybe dinner and a nice foot rub. :)

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Yes. I know that we should be happy she has a job. And we are. But it doesn't make her having to work with jerks feel any better. It just means we have to deal with it and work aroudn it.

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Originally Posted by LGray23

Be happy she has a job, there's quite a few people who'd kill to have a work schedule at all.

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Very true, and a little ironic considering today was my last day of work. The Air Force cut my position along with about 45 others at the base I've been working at. Tomorrow will be the first day in the last 27 years that I have not had a job.

I'd love to have a schedule to get jerked around on....

I work in an industry notorious for both jerks and last minute schedule changes, and it has affected plans of mine a countless number of times. It's all I really know how to do, and until I find a way out, I have many plans to have many plans of mine interrupted at a moment's notice....gotta roll with it.

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Originally Posted by LGray23

Be happy she has a job, there's quite a few people who'd kill to have a work schedule at all.

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I'm sorry, but your answer makes me angry. It's attitudes like this that make companies feel they are justified in treating their employees like a disposable commodity. Just because you do not have a job does NOT excuse employers who feel they can violate labor laws whenever they feel like it. Laws that are there to protect people like YOU when you finally do find a job.

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Originally Posted by MarkS

I'm sorry, but your answer makes me angry. It's attitudes like this that make companies feel they are justified in treating their employees like a disposable commodity. Just because you do not have a job does NOT excuse employers who feel they can violate labor laws whenever they feel like it. Laws that are there to protect people like YOU when you finally do find a job.

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I agree with you. Yes, be thankful she has work but do not become complacent with being treated like crap.

Thats like saying "my creepy boss grabs my butt every time I walk by but I'm just glad I have a job so it's ok."

They will use this to set precedence and if they get away with it now, they will most likely abuse it in the future.



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Originally Posted by MasonC2K

Yes. I know that we should be happy she has a job. And we are. But it doesn't make her having to work with jerks feel any better. It just means we have to deal with it and work aroudn it.

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In my line of work (nurse) I get called in all of the time for people who call off. Sucks, but when all is said and done someone has to take care of the people.

Waaay back, when I was still married, I got called in on Christmas afternoon shift. It sucked. However, when I got off and back home at midnight, there was a dinner ready, and my husband had evidently spent the 10 hours I was away, with travel time, totally cleaning the house. There wasn't a bit of laundry to be done, the house was spotless...it was the Best. Christmas. Ever. I didn't have to lift a finger except to pick up a fork. And we still went out and celebrated the next day when I was off work.

This cuts both ways. Yes, be grateful she has a job, many who need one don't. Yes, be crabby they are jerking you around, that's a crummy way to be treated.

Your best bet is for her to work as agreed, but she should CALMLY speak to a supervisor about the difficulty in adjusting her life to so many drastic changes. If she is calm, dignified and speaks in a rational manor, chances are good that someone will look into this rather ridiculous flip-flopping of her work schedule and if things go your way, they won't let it happen again.

This method worked for me very well with three different managers. Sometimes the lead supervisor has no idea what the scheduling person does, as long as the positions get filled when they need to be.

Besides, it's just another day of the week. You can easily make any day something special, the calendar doesn't control that.

Gale

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Originally Posted by MarkS

I'm sorry, but your answer makes me angry. It's attitudes like this that make companies feel they are justified in treating their employees like a disposable commodity. Just because you do not have a job does NOT excuse employers who feel they can violate labor laws whenever they feel like it. Laws that are there to protect people like YOU when you finally do find a job.

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I'm not well versed in the labor laws, federal or state to state. In my line of work, changes in schedule are not a violation of anything. I work in an "at will" environment. I'm free to leave when I'd like for any reason, and can be terminated at any time for any reason. If I'm not willing to be flexible, then the powers that be won't be willing to let me keep my job.

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Originally Posted by jbean7916

Thats like saying "my creepy boss grabs my butt every time I walk by but I'm just glad I have a job so it's ok."

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I'm sorry, but schedule changes and ass grabbing are not in the same atmosphere...not at all:rolleyes:.

Mason, now I'm curious...did your wife ask for the day off and have signed approval of it, or is it simply just short notice schedule changing?