Your worst loss?

As a couple people know I just made the move from North Carolina to New Orleans, LA with thanks to the US Marines. We've actually been pretty excited about the move, it was supposed to happen when my husband got back from Iraq, but was delayed for a few months. No big deal.
Everything went very smoothly, TMO grabbed our stuff, we owed nothing to our apartment complex for clean up or damages. The drive was only 15 hours with only one wrong turn that was quickly corrected. We found our new apartment the first day we got down here, spent a decent night in a nearby hotel then switched to and extended stay hotel as our apartment is still occupied untill the 31st.
I really should have been leary of all this going in our favor and paid alittle more attention in the rush between hotels. With my mind spinning with all that needed to be done and getting everything out of the hotel room before check-out I managed to not tie the bag containing my fire female properly. Now I have to keep a small collection since we move every four years or so. Consisting of two females, and two males. This girl was by far my favorite, most promising, best eater, and most expensive.
I'm assuming she got loose in my truck on the way to the new hotel room, given that its been a week now without a sign of her I think its safe to say that barring a miracle, shes pretty much gone for good. She is chipped, which is were Im putting hopes on my miracle, but I've resigned myself to changing my breeding plans.
I dont usually share in my drama, but given how adept snakes are at going MIA, I thought I might give people a chance to vent with me and share their own losses. Maybe it will help others think twice when they would have rushed through something :).

I am sooooo sorry to hear this :( I really hope by some chance you find her!!

A week is not that long. Maybe put a bowl of water in the truck at night, see if she's in it in the morning. Also, did you check with the hotel you stayed in? Maybe she turned up there. Check with animal control and see if any have been turned in.

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Originally Posted by Boanerges

I am sooooo sorry to hear this :( I really hope by some chance you find her!!

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Thanks man, my poor husbands had to deal with me being moody all week because of it. lol. I loved that girl and had alot of hopes planned on her breeding future. At this point I'm pretty much just hoping someone understanding finds her and gives her a good home.

I bet that it is safe and sound in your truck jammed into some insulation somewhere. Try putting out a water bowl as suggested and also put out a mouse in a cricket container of some kind that would keep the mouse securely but allow ventilation to spread the scent around.

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Originally Posted by dsirkle

I bet that it is safe and sound in your truck jammed into some insulation somewhere. Try putting out a water bowl as suggested and also put out a mouse in a cricket container of some kind that would keep the mouse securely but allow ventilation to spread the scent around.

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Yah Ive put out two mice so far, was checking pretty much every few hours up untill the last couple days. I havent tried water yet with the humidity being so high out here, but I'll go put out a bowl today. It is possible she's still crammed into some spot I cant see.
I havent called the hotel, mostly out of fear of reprisal and she really didnt have much time to escape before she was transferred to the truck. I figure if they did find her they either tossed her outside or called animal control. I have been trying to contact the local shelters with little feedback yet.

While I didnt start the thread for sympathy I do appreciate the support you guys are sending my way. Thanks to all :)

Well I dunno if this is only snakes or not but here goes.



My worst loss was my dad, he died the February before I graduated high school. It hit me very much by surprise. We had, in the past 4 years been enemies. But he was trying hard to repair mistakes made when I was a child. I never let him, and he died one night with all we had between us unforgiven. I loved him, but I was young and never said it. When I graduated that year I did so in a way I hoped he woulod have found funny.


Children are stupid, I know I was. I lost him, and I tink of it every day.

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Well I dunno if this is only snakes or not but here goes.

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But he was trying hard to repair mistakes made when I was a child. I never let him, and he died one night with all we had between us unforgiven. I loved him, but I was young and never said it. When I graduated that year I did so in a way I hoped he woulod have found funny.


Children are stupid, I know I was. I lost him, and I tink of it every day.

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As long as he found comfort in trying to repair the relationship, then all you have to do is realize, that he was fine at the time of his death. This has to be a big consolation knowing that he was okay at that time.

Take Care!
Jim Smith

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Originally Posted by j_h_smith

As long as he found comfort in trying to repair the relationship, then all you have to do is realize, that he was fine at the time of his death. This has to be a big consolation knowing that he was okay at that time.

Take Care!
Jim Smith

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I was being a real jerk of a teenager at the time...I should have told him I forgave him, and participated, instead of ignoring his phone calls and trying to punish him for past wrongings.

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I was being a real jerk of a teenager at the time...I should have told him I forgave him, and participated, instead of ignoring his phone calls and trying to punish him for past wrongings.

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Trust me, all of us were jerks as teenagers. Moms and Dads realize that we think with our hormones and not our brains at that age. If your Dad continued to try to repair the relationship, he knew you loved him and of course he loved you. The only punishment that is going on now is your remorse for being a kid. Stop it, stop it right now. You know your Dad loved you, and he knew you loved him. Trust me on this one. I've got 4 kids, 24, 20, 19 and 15. The oldest 3 had their own specific issues with Mom and Dad, but I can tell you, I NEVER stoppped loving them. As a matter of fact, when our relationship was in turmoil, I loved them even more.

Just realize that he loved you enough to never give up on you.
Jim Smith

loosing my grandmother and loosing two of my best friends on motorcycle accidents. Those so car have been my worst loss. I am having a sleeve tattoo in honor of my grandmother. She was more of a mother to me then my own. I have her funeral card and im going to have the picture tattooed on my arm and on my forum will be the prayer on the card.

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Trust me, all of us were jerks as teenagers. Moms and Dads realize that we think with our hormones and not our brains at that age. If your Dad continued to try to repair the relationship, he knew you loved him and of course he loved you. The only punishment that is going on now is your remorse for being a kid. Stop it, stop it right now. You know your Dad loved you, and he knew you loved him. Trust me on this one. I've got 4 kids, 24, 20, 19 and 15. The oldest 3 had their own specific issues with Mom and Dad, but I can tell you, I NEVER stoppped loving them. As a matter of fact, when our relationship was in turmoil, I loved them even more.

Just realize that he loved you enough to never give up on you.
Jim Smith

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Thank you for what you said, I don't know how to respond. I always wish I could know or ask what he would think about my life as it stands. It's one of many reasons I'll never have kids though. I don't wanna leave them early. There's many more. I'm messed up to9day, Sorry.

I actually did mean snakes/pets, but I dont mind the change in flavor at all. I started it with the intent to allow venting and give others a chance to correct a potential mistake they might have made in a simular situation, so progressing into something that important suits this thread just fine.
I think its admirable you can come on and share that detail of your life and admit what you would have changed had you known. I'm sorry for your loss, Ive been lucky so far with people in my life. Ive had my share of drama, but no losses to mourn with loved ones. I hope it stays that way and I hope I can always remember that petty differences or fights for whatever reason arent nearly so important as they might seem at the time.

the pet i miss the most is a german shepherd/rottwieler mix that i'd gotten for mothers day about 2 years ago. we had to give her back to the lady we adopted her from when it was time for us to move across the country 1 year and a 1/2 ago because my bf's dad, who bought us our house, said "no dogs".

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the pet i miss the most is a german shepherd/rottwieler mix that i'd gotten for mothers day about 2 years ago. we had to give her back to the lady we adopted her from when it was time for us to move across the country 1 year and a 1/2 ago because my bf's dad, who bought us our house, said "no dogs".

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aww, thats aweful! I had something similar a few years back. Divorced and couldnt take my boxer/pit mix when I had to leave. gave him to a good friend were he lived out the last of his days on 30 acres.

Thanks everyone for sharing and supporting each other. Ive always loved the idea of tattoos for lost ones, and I like that theres an over all sense of good feelings despite the threads topic.

Big thanks to those who wished me well in my efforts, Id like to update everyone and say that I caught my fire this morning!
I cant tell you what a relief it is to have her back in her tub. It was well worth sitting in the truck for four hours till 230 am tll she finally creeped out far enough for the f/t mouse I brought out. For being so easy going she did not want to be caught. lol. I just got a hiss for her displeasure though, and she had a ten day adventure.

I learned a valuable lesson and hope it will help someone else from making the same mistake because they are rushed.

I lost my childhood dog when I was... 15? Basically, he was my best friend for about 3 or 4 years. We spent each and every day together. He taught me most of what I know about animals: how to respect them and (sadly) when you're just being mean to them. I can't go a week without thinking about him (albeit, 15 wasn't too long ago!).

Congratulations on finding your snake!! That's such great news! :)

Last Fall, we lost our little ferret, Lilly. She was so sweet and loving. We are not sure what killed her, but we also lost Zeke, another ferret, soon after. We found Lilly laying in the bottom of the cage, barely alive. She was so thin. She had been losing weight for a while, and even with additional feedings, she wasn't gaining anything. She had been small to start out with, so the day of her passing, she weighed less than a lb. We scooped her up and I was in tears. We called our normal vet and they said they couldn't see her that day. It was an emergency, but they couldn't fit her into their schedule (We don't go to them anymore). So we rushed to the emergency vet downtown, but the exotic vet wasn't there. So then we went to the vet down the street, but their exotic vet wasn't in. They called another vet for us and we rushed her there. They got some fluids in her but we got the call the next morning that she had passed. We were devastated. I felt like a little piece of my heart was missing that day. It still hurts to think about her.

All the vet could say was that it was a virus of some kind but just in case it was bacterial, she put the remaining 3 on an antibiotic. The 3 are doing fine and have gained a ton of weight (everyone had been losing weight) since then. (They went from eating a mere 1oz each per meal, as that was all they could stomach to eat to eating 2-3oz per day!)

I will always remember Lilly and I know her brothers and sister miss her a lot. It is just not the same not seeing 4 ferrets cramming into the same hammock.

Congrats on finding your girl!