Sitting in the surgical waiting room

My fiance is having another surgery, this time they are taking out 15-20 lymph nodes in his abdomen. Two of his lymph nodes got bigger after chemotherapy and he had a 20% chance of his cancer spreading all over again. He's been in surgery for two hours and the nurse told us he's doing good, but we've got a few hours to go. It's so nerve racking sitting here.... I hate it.

He'll be in the hospital for a few days and I'm spending the night tonight and tomorrow, but I have to work Sunday night. It's going to be a long weekend!

Praying for you guys!
Hoping you guys have a blessed Easter!

My thoughts are with you:)

You and your fiance will be in my thoughts and prayers Stephanie...

my prayers are with you and your hubby. I know the feeling all to well waiting in the waiting room and hospitals by far are not my thing.

I know its hard u are such a sweetheart to be by his side.
Nothing but prayers and good thoughts coming your way!

Sending lots of positive vibes your way.

I'll keep you guys in my thoughts! You two are the unbreakable force, I swear!

hmm... I don't know if I'd rather be in your situation or mine.
Yours: happily engaged and presumed gainfully employed with fiance battling cancer, with horse and dog
Mine: single and unemployed without anyone battling cancer, without horse or dog

Better to have loved than not at all. My situation is no fun, but yours is a different one and I wish you and your man the best outcome! Please also remember to take care of your needs, sleep, eat, exercise, rest, he needs you too. :)

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Originally Posted by Jason Bowden

Praying for you guys!
Hoping you guys have a blessed Easter!

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Originally Posted by Christine

My thoughts are with you:)

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Originally Posted by Boanerges

You and your fiance will be in my thoughts and prayers Stephanie...

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Originally Posted by BallsUnlimited

my prayers are with you and your hubby. I know the feeling all to well waiting in the waiting room and hospitals by far are not my thing.

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Originally Posted by Warocker's Wife

I know its hard u are such a sweetheart to be by his side.
Nothing but prayers and good thoughts coming your way!

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Originally Posted by kc261

Sending lots of positive vibes your way.

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Originally Posted by Elise.m

I'll keep you guys in my thoughts! You two are the unbreakable force, I swear!

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Thank you so much everyone! It's been a long day so far! He's been in surgery for 4 hours now and they think he has about a 1/2 hour left.

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Originally Posted by CA cowgirl

hmm... I don't know if I'd rather be in your situation or mine.
Yours: happily engaged and presumed gainfully employed with fiance battling cancer, with horse and dog
Mine: single and unemployed without anyone battling cancer, without horse or dog

Better to have loved than not at all. My situation is no fun, but yours is a different one and I wish you and your man the best outcome! Please also remember to take care of your needs, sleep, eat, exercise, rest, he needs you too. :)

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Oh man that's awful :( Keep your hopes up, I know it's got to be hard! I've been so thankful to have the animals, especially horses. I ride with my family at least once a week, it's a life saver to be able to get away from it all, even for just an hour or two. I hope you have something joyful to lose yourself in.

I learned the hard way not to ignore my own need :( I ended up with an infection in one of my ovaries, it was god awful! That's the best piece of advice you could give any caregiver of sorts!

Good luck to you and never give up!

Yay!!! He's out of surgery, it's been just over 4 hours. The doc said one of his lymph nodes was really big and may have cancer in it. If it does have cancer Blake will have 2 more rounds of chemo, which is 6 more weeks, 2 of those weeks being 5 days in a row 8 hours a day. I really don't want to tell him that part. He's going to be VERY upset.

Please keep us posted Stephanie. I'm glad surgery has finished successfully. :)

Your boyfriend will be in my prayers for a speedy recovery and you will be as well.

He's doing pretty well. He's hurting and feeling pretty sick. They have a tube down his nose and into his belly to suck everything out so he doesn't throw up. I want to throw up just thinking about it, and definitely when I look at him :(

His mom is really upsetting me, to put it nicely. She didn't want to take a day off of work to be here even though she gets 30 days of paid vacation a year. She did end up showing up to see him, but only for 20 minutes!!! She's pretty much worthless when it comes to being a mom. My mom has been here since 10am this morning and just left at 9pm. I'm thankful he at least has her to show him support and love. I could just pull out my hair right now.

Your boyfriend has a rough row to hoe. He is fortunate to have you at his side though his troubles.

Our best of wishes to you and your family we will keep ya'll in our prayers.

Oye I am so sorry I thought you guys were out of the woods with this thing. At least it sounds like they are on top of this!! I will keep you both in my prayers. I wish I was there to give you a big hug and do your job on for you on Sunday. Hang in there and pls feel free to shoot me a pm if you need anything!!

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Originally Posted by Isis

He's doing pretty well. He's hurting and feeling pretty sick. They have a tube down his nose and into his belly to suck everything out so he doesn't throw up. I want to throw up just thinking about it, and definitely when I look at him :(

His mom is really upsetting me, to put it nicely. She didn't want to take a day off of work to be here even though she gets 30 days of paid vacation a year. She did end up showing up to see him, but only for 20 minutes!!! She's pretty much worthless when it comes to being a mom. My mom has been here since 10am this morning and just left at 9pm. I'm thankful he at least has her to show him support and love. I could just pull out my hair right now.

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If you constantly expect her to be the mom you feel she should be, you'll never be happy. You have to be happy for the love you have for this guy, be the person you are and be there for him. When you have kids, you'll be the mom your kids should have. Knowing that should get you to realize what's important.

Keep on being strong!

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Originally Posted by dsirkle

Your boyfriend has a rough row to hoe. He is fortunate to have you at his side though his troubles.

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Originally Posted by SAR17

Our best of wishes to you and your family we will keep ya'll in our prayers.

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Oye I am so sorry I thought you guys were out of the woods with this thing. At least it sounds like they are on top of this!! I will keep you both in my prayers. I wish I was there to give you a big hug and do your job on for you on Sunday. Hang in there and pls feel free to shoot me a pm if you need anything!!

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Thanks everyone! I thought we were done with this crap too! :tears: So far they are thinking the lymph nodes look/feel pretty normal, but we still have to wait for the test results, which should be on Tuesday. I would love a hug from you BPelizabeth :P And I would definitely love you picking up my Sunday shift! :gj:

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Originally Posted by CA cowgirl

If you constantly expect her to be the mom you feel she should be, you'll never be happy. You have to be happy for the love you have for this guy, be the person you are and be there for him. When you have kids, you'll be the mom your kids should have. Knowing that should get you to realize what's important.

Keep on being strong!

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You are so right, but it's sooooo hard to look past her ignorance as a mother. I try my best, but it still really gets to me. His whole family is like that though. None of his family has called to talk to him or ask about him, let alone come see him. Not even his brother or sister have drove the 20 minutes to come see him. I just don't get that family :(

I am glad its over and he is on the way to recovery.. still in our thoughts!

keep your chin up kiddo, your smile will make it easier for him!

Good luck. I hope everything goes well for you and your husband. I know the feeling. I was at school while my mom was in the Operating Room in another country for just over 7 and 1/2 only about a month ago. Pretty hard to concentrate while that is happening. Lots more to say but I wont. Hope your husband gets better ASAP.:please:

Good luck to you both. Just read him some BG posts. This will cheer him up in a hurry.

Hold on...maybe not. How strong is his personality? That may not be the best thing for him.:D


Hope all turns out for both of you. BG wants to see both of you at the Big Gunns Bash in Daytona(If BG ever plans it).:gj:

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Originally Posted by Isis

You are so right, but it's sooooo hard to look past her ignorance as a mother. I try my best, but it still really gets to me. His whole family is like that though. None of his family has called to talk to him or ask about him, let alone come see him. Not even his brother or sister have drove the 20 minutes to come see him. I just don't get that family :(

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Not everyone was born into the family they would want. I am thankful for my mom, but she is all I have. I have a sister that is evil and thousands of miles away, a brother who is absorbed in his family, he's also a couple thousand miles away, I don't know my extended family that's also a few thousand miles away, and I never met my dad... holidays are quiet and lonely... so just think, it could be worse, he could be without you!

Stop letting them get to you. Think about the family you are building now. Serious. :)

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Originally Posted by Warocker's Wife

I am glad its over and he is on the way to recovery.. still in our thoughts!

keep your chin up kiddo, your smile will make it easier for him!

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Thank you and I will! I have been smiling but he keeps flipping me off :colbert: He's been pretty funny even though he feels like absolute poo. I just laugh and tell him it will be alright, and then he usually flips me off again :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by warman0712

Good luck. I hope everything goes well for you and your husband. I know the feeling. I was at school while my mom was in the Operating Room in another country for just over 7 and 1/2 only about a month ago. Pretty hard to concentrate while that is happening. Lots more to say but I wont. Hope your husband gets better ASAP.:please:

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Oh man that would have been really hard! Thank you very much.

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Originally Posted by Big Gunns

Good luck to you both. Just read him some BG posts. This will cheer him up in a hurry.

Hold on...maybe not. How strong is his personality? That may not be the best thing for him.:D


Hope all turns out for both of you. BG wants to see both of you at the Big Gunns Bash in Daytona(If BG ever plans it).:gj:

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I've read him some of your really funny posts and for some reason he thinks you're full of yourself :8: Thank you very much and I would love to come to your Big Gunns Bash, especially if I found some plane tickets in my mailbox :gj:

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Originally Posted by CA cowgirl

Not everyone was born into the family they would want. I am thankful for my mom, but she is all I have. I have a sister that is evil and thousands of miles away, a brother who is absorbed in his family, he's also a couple thousand miles away, I don't know my extended family that's also a few thousand miles away, and I never met my dad... holidays are quiet and lonely... so just think, it could be worse, he could be without you!

Stop letting them get to you. Think about the family you are building now. Serious. :)

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That would be so hard to not have any family. I am very thankful to have mine and I don't know how people can go through life without them. Hopefully you will find an amazing partner someday soon! :hug: