i need advice.

:rolleyes::oops::O:confused::rolleye2::gj::snake::8::cool::taz::salute::banana:: banana::banana::banana::banana::banana::banana::banana::bow:me and my gf havent talked 4 a few weeks.i told her why.and she went and got some country boy.[im from tenesse].and then we got in a fight then we made up.she gave me her address so i can send her stuff.and today i google the address.and the street names dont match and i already sent her a letter.wat wud u do.pm or reply to this post wit advice:(:mad::P

In any relationship, clear communication is the key to success.

Both people deserve not to be played around with, no mind games, NO LYING. If there is any of that, there is a serious problem.

The thing to do is to talk to her, face to face if possible (though that may be difficult if you don't know how to find her), so at least call her.

Give her the benefit of the doubt for her address I suppose, I've gotten weird issues with addresses before using online map services. Call and double check.

well not talking to your GF for 4 weeks....that is pretty bad!! Just like the other person said...you have to have open communication. Sometimes that can be difficult. Im an Italian girl that can hold a grudge a LONG time. So it takes some doing on my part to break that!!!

With that in mind...you need to just have a very serious conversation and really be honest and open. The fact that she went and got another "guy"...should tell you something though. It is hard to recover from that one...but I have seen ppl do it. Just don't get into this type of relationship where you break up...get back together....break up..yada yada. And don't "glamourize" your relationship. What I mean is look back on all the good things and push aside the fact that maybe you are not right for each other.

The only other thing I can tell you is take a look at your past relationships...were they like this?? We tend to subconsiously (I know I spelled that one wrong) pick the same type of individuals and make the same type of relationship mistakes....I call it a broken picker!! Hard to fix that until you take a good look at it.

my phones got broke in a fight and i told her that and she said ok.i e-mailed her every other day though.but thanks for the advice.and ur an italian girl if u gotta a sec lets talk i love having italian friends.[because im partially italian myself]:):):):):):salute::salute::salute::salute::banana::banana::banana:

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Originally Posted by bloodpython19

:rolleyes::oops::O:confused::rolleye2::gj::snake::8::cool::taz::salute::banana:: banana::banana::banana::banana::banana::banana::banana::bow:me and my gf havent talked 4 a few weeks.i told her why.and she went and got some country boy.[im from tenesse].and then we got in a fight then we made up.she gave me her address so i can send her stuff.and today i google the address.and the street names dont match and i already sent her a letter.wat wud u do.pm or reply to this post wit advice:(:mad::P

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BG wud lay da snackdown in dis countree boy fa sure...then he wud tell his gf to git lost fur hookin up wid dis countree boyee. Find a new gf n all will b well.

BG tinks she is stilla wit dis boyee and doesn't want you ta know where she at.

I'm glad you speak his language BG, it took me a couple of reads to understand what he was saying.

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Originally Posted by BPelizabeth

Im an Italian girl that can hold a grudge a LONG time. So it takes some doing on my part to break that!!!

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Italian girls scare me. I am in a failing relationship with one. She is mean. :D

I would email her and ask her to confirm her address, then send a letter with return reciept, its like 50 cents, then you can ensure its her address.
If it isn't, email her and ask her why.
Tell her the truth that you would either like to send her, her stuff. OR that you would like to meet with her, she and you both bring adults OR friends, and meet in a neutral place so you can give her, her stuff...

I would then take some time off, from relationship... and then find some one a bit more compatible.. perhaps
Carol

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Originally Posted by stormwulf133

Italian girls scare me. I am in a failing relationship with one. She is mean. :D

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Kinda what Big Gunns suspected was the "root" of your issues. Find some strength to dump her, and get on with your life.:gj:

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Originally Posted by Big Gunns

BG wud lay da snackdown in dis countree boy fa sure...then he wud tell his gf to git lost fur hookin up wid dis countree boyee. Find a new gf n all will b well.

BG tinks she is stilla wit dis boyee and doesn't want you ta know where she at.

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Do you have the french translation for that :8:

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Originally Posted by stormwulf133

Italian girls scare me. I am in a failing relationship with one. She is mean. :D

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Yea .....I hate to say this but we don't play very fair. :rolleyes: You can talk to my husband.....he will give ya some pointers on how to handle us...:8:

Probably the only man I have EVER met that can handle me when I am mad. No wonder I married him....lol

He would probably tell you when we are in our element and "going off" mind you that includes alot of talking with our hands....just shut up and listen...and nod your head, always remain calm. :weirdface

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....just shut up and pretend to listen while you imagine that remote from the movie "Click" and wish you had one right about now...and nod your head, always remain calm. :weirdface

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Fixed that for you. :)

omg...too funny!! :rofl::rofl:

I think my husband is like Oh YEA...no wait....of course not honey

So, is this an online relationship - or have you actually hung out in person? If it's only an online thing, I'd say cut your losses and move on. :cool: Sounds like she is trying to give you the brush-off, and probably isn't worth pursuing any further. How old are you, btw, and how long have you been dating her?

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So, is this an online relationship - or have you actually hung out in person? If it's only an online thing, I'd say cut your losses and move on. :cool: Sounds like she is trying to give you the brush-off, and probably isn't worth pursuing any further. How old are you, btw, and how long have you been dating her?

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it is online.we're both 14,and we've been toghether about 4-5 months.why u wana know?

Even being online, it has to be a real relationship. If she goes off and gets with some guy, she cheated on you, and you need to just leave her. My longest relationship of 3 years 4 months (I'm 19) was online, and we did get together in person when he could visit. Cancer was the only thing that tore us apart. I was 12-15.
Tim, who I am with now, I also met online. Which is why I'm in Texas and not in Cali where I am originally from. We've been together for almost 2 years, from the day we met in person, and have known each other for about 5 years. He's now my fiancee.

If you both don't treat an online relationship like how it would be in real life, it's not going to work and you just need to move on to someone who's not going to cheat on you.

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Even being online, it has to be a real relationship. If she goes off and gets with some guy, she cheated on you, and you need to just leave her. My longest relationship of 3 years 4 months (I'm 19) was online, and we did get together in person when he could visit. Cancer was the only thing that tore us apart. I was 12-15.
Tim, who I am with now, I also met online. Which is why I'm in Texas and not in Cali where I am originally from. We've been together for almost 2 years, from the day we met in person, and have known each other for about 5 years. He's now my fiancee.

If you both don't treat an online relationship like how it would be in real life, it's not going to work and you just need to move on to someone who's not going to cheat on you.

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well im not the one cheating.i have turned down every girl that has asked me out.becuz i love her.i even spent $455.75 to have her name tatooed and outlined in rose on my arm.so she needs to hear this not me.and thanks for the advice

Oye...you tatoo'd her name on you...and you are 14??? Ur killin me!

I understand that at 14 it can be love....but you have so so much to look forward in your life. You have so many experiences to go through before you get too too hooked on one girl. You should have many loves over time...it helps you grow and helps you to become an adult.

Now I know you probably do not want to hear that at your age especially from someone my age. Lord knows....I sure did not want to hear it. But in all the years that I told my Mom..."whatever...like you know"....I hate to admitt but she was right every single time. Actually really made me angry still does drive me crazy that she was right. ANYWAYS.....talk to her ...say what you need to say and then my suggestion would be to move on. You have so many other things that need to be a priority in your life at this age.

And stop getting tatoos at your age....especially ones with names on them. Mind you I have tats....just when I was older!!

I'd just like to chime in with a few words of advice (or encouragement at least):

First off, as was said before, communication is definitely the most important aspect of any relationship.

I personally am in a long distance relationship myself right now. Becky, my girlfriend, and I met roughly three years ago at a camp, I was 16 years old. Last year in early July of 2008 we began talking lots, like every day via text messaging. In August we started making phone calls, we called each other every night for at least two hours. I grew a strong interest in her and in October of 2008 I flew to Canada to visit her. Mind you, I live in New Jersey. In October we 'officially' started dating. Since last August we have missed a grand total of -zero- days from talking on the phone.

Some people think this is a little crazy, but I love her to death - In a few years we hope to get married :rolleye2:

So, whats the point of this mushy gushy love story? Well so far it's been successful, so I figure we must be doing something right.

We talk every day, at 9:30pm I get a phone call which usually lasts 2 hours, some days I work late, so calls get delayed, but even a brief phone call is better than nothing.

I don't know if you're allowed, or if she's allowed, or if you guys have the money (I'm always very suspicious of meeting people online), but I see Becky roughly once a month. Either she flies here, or I fly (or drive) there. - 6 hours in a car isn't really that bad!

It sounds like either you have a job, or you have a way of getting your hands on money - from that $500 tattoo. I'd invest in a texting plan or something.

Anyway, you guys need to talk, thats it. If you talk to your teachers more than you talk to your girlfriend, there may be a slight problem ;)

Good luck :)

Ken

i am a farmhand in bargersville,IN.it is great money

Howd you get inked at 14?

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...got some country boy.[im from tenesse]...

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i am a farmhand in bargersville,IN.it is great money

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I'm a little confused now, are you from Tennessee or Indiana? (A commute from Tennessee to Indiana - especially at 14 - is definitely impossible)

If you want advice, you need to a) get your facts straight, b) tell the true story, otherwise your credibility is going to go way down and people won't want to take the time to give you advice.

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I'm a little confused now, are you from Tennessee or Indiana? (A commute from Tennessee to Indiana - especially at 14 - is definitely impossible)

If you want advice, you need to a) get your facts straight, b) tell the true story, otherwise your credibility is going to go way down and people won't want to take the time to give you advice.

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im from tennesse.i moved to indiana when i was 8.but i work on my cousins farm

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Howd you get inked at 14?

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parents singed that it was ok.

i need more advice ppl

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i need more advice ppl

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Te be perfectly honest, you need to move on. There is no way this can possibly work at your age and this distance.

Big Gunns can't believe your parents allowed you to get a tat with her name. It shouldn't be that hard to find another internet gf if you want one, but BG would suggests you find one closer to home. There's a lot more perks in that kind of relationship.;):D

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it is online.we're both 14,and we've been toghether about 4-5 months.why u wana know?

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Forget anything I said. It has nothing to do with online relationships, relationships between people under the age of 18, and especially not a relationship that falls into the above two categories.