So, are my requirements too hard/high?

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Originally Posted by Neal

I keep Rufous Beaked and Ball Pythons. The RB are rear fanged venomous but are probably among the most docile snakes. Everybody I know that has them says they've never attempted to bite or strike out of aggression.

Yea, somethings can be negotiated, but those two things aren't. The gaming maybe could be but something would have to seriously replace my time, but the snakes aren't going anywhere period, that will not happen. I agree that changes for the better are always good, but getting rid of snakes isn't changing for the better.

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I meant that in the opposite way actually, as in just because she might not like it now, doesn't mean she won't change and become involved woth your hobbies as she learns about them. My hubby had never even held a snake before, and now he spends more time on genetic wizard than I do.

I could see venomous as a potential grey area though, but it's not like RB is a scary hot.

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Originally Posted by Badgemash

I meant that in the opposite way actually, as in just because she might not like it now, doesn't mean she won't change and become involved woth your hobbies as she learns about them. My hubby had never even held a snake before, and now he spends more time on genetic wizard than I do.

I could see venomous as a potential grey area though, but it's not like RB is a scary hot.

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Yea, and the reason I got back into the hobby were for the Rufous Beaked. As a matter of fact I refused to return to the hobby until I found one. Then I did so now I'm back. My BP's would go before them.

I ditto what a lot of people have posted here.
As long as she supports your hobbies, it shouldn't matter if she enjoys them herself or not. Though, my boyfriend may disagree.
He seems to think gaming would bring us closer. For the heck of it, one day I did try. Got pretty into a PC game for a month or so and then that died.
My love of snake keeping trumped that and FAST.

My advice to you: if you happen to find a girl who isn't into gaming, be sure to know your limits. My bf would spend the entirety of his 2 days off on his games if I wasn't bugging him to go to a movie or dinner or something. He thinks a 3-4hr session of Call of Duty is "just a warm up." Literally. Its getting to the point where it's causing issues, so be invested in your relationship enough to know when it call it a night.

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Originally Posted by M&NSnakeDen

I ditto what a lot of people have posted here.
As long as she supports your hobbies, it shouldn't matter if she enjoys them herself or not. Though, my boyfriend may disagree.
He seems to think gaming would bring us closer. For the heck of it, one day I did try. Got pretty into a PC game for a month or so and then that died.
My love of snake keeping trumped that and FAST.

My advice to you: if you happen to find a girl who isn't into gaming, be sure to know your limits. My bf would spend the entirety of his 2 days off on his games if I wasn't bugging him to go to a movie or dinner or something. He thinks a 3-4hr session of Call of Duty is "just a warm up." Literally. Its getting to the point where it's causing issues, so be invested in your relationship enough to know when it call it a night.

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See I hate COD, so it's okay :P.

I play BF3, and some days I play then some days I don't. I only play an hour or so if I do unless I happen to have all my friends on and I'm left with nothing to do then I'll play for hours, but that's very rare and it's only because I have nothing better to do. Trust me I'd rather be doing something much more useful.

The girl I mentioned before and I have been going on dates lately. I'm still trying to get her to love my snakes, but she's still a little scared. Just keep going on with your life, and a good relationship will happen! :)

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Originally Posted by Neal

See I hate COD, so it's okay :P.

I play BF3, and some days I play then some days I don't. I only play an hour or so if I do unless I happen to have all my friends on and I'm left with nothing to do then I'll play for hours, but that's very rare and it's only because I have nothing better to do. Trust me I'd rather be doing something much more useful.

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I wish Noah was like that. :(

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Originally Posted by M&NSnakeDen

I wish Noah was like that. :(

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I mean don't get me wrong I can play for hours but it's different because I don't enjoy playing normally so it's purely out of boredom now that I play. I'd much rather be out hanging with somebody or even helping my friends with their snakes but they don't need help. Then all my friends are basically married and have kids so I can't really impose on their life. I'm sure I could go to the bar or a club and meet somebody, but I don't want to meet somebody there because it's not something I enjoy doing.

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Originally Posted by Neal

I mean don't get me wrong I can play for hours but it's different because I don't enjoy playing normally so it's purely out of boredom now that I play. I'd much rather be out hanging with somebody or even helping my friends with their snakes but they don't need help. Then all my friends are basically married and have kids so I can't really impose on their life. I'm sure I could go to the bar or a club and meet somebody, but I don't want to meet somebody there because it's not something I enjoy doing.

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Same here! Im tired of the bar scene! Tried it and seems thats all they wanted to do! I just work and stay home, boring life, but beats going to the bars for me!

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Originally Posted by ROACH

Same here! Im tired of the bar scene! Tried it and seems thats all they wanted to do! I just work and stay home, boring life, but beats going to the bars for me!

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Yea man. I definitely hear you there. I dated a girl who always wanted to go out and since I work nights it really wasn't going to work out from the get go. I mean if you really have to go out drinking to have fun then that isn't the type of person I want to be with. I can have fun from the environment of my own home. Hell the other day I was helping a friend work on his car and we got bored and we pushed two tires all the way down the road to see who would win. We've raced riding lawnmowers before. I'm 28 and even when I was younger I never enjoyed the party scene, because I think more then anything drunk people or stupid drunks annoy me. The yelling because they can't hear themselves or leaning on you slurring their words. The partying and all that just gets really old and I couldn't even keep up with the girl. I took a night off work to go out with her to another city and I didn't get home until like 8am the next morning. Screw that.

My 2 cents (married 16 years to my forever man):

I knew I found my forever man because he's a guy who shares my core values and who I can give up any of my 1,001 hobbies for without looking back and without regrets.

So randomly reading forum threads and came upon this one. I have to agree with a lot of points made already here. Mostly about compromise and respecting each others' hobbies.

I personally would like to find someone that shares some of my hobbies as well. It's nice to have things in common to talk about. Of course, I am willing to compromise, for sure. I'd take someone that's sane, funny, honest, respectful over someone that merely shares my hobby, but is a complete dolt.

I have to point this out to OP out there. There *are* girls out there that do have those hobbies! I'm one myself ;) I love reptiles (I've got .. uh.. 17 snakes now..) I play games, mostly online MMOs (Currently FFXIV), and I work nights.. to boot! Haha

Have I chimed in on this? I don't think I did.

I don't think your requirements are too high at all! Yeah, there are more important things, (That SHOULD be there, too) like compatibility/compatible world views, etc...But when it comes right down to it, why would you want to be with someone you had no main hobbies/interests/passions in common with? I know many people make it work- and are extremely happy! (pleasedon'tgetmadatmepeople) but it's just not what I'm looking for, and I get the feeling it's not what you're looking for, either. I don't want a marriage like my parents. They love each other, but they have so little interests in common it's laughable. I was with someone I had no interests in common with. (granted, other reasons it was bad, too) I nearly married him. I would be miserable today if I had. If that's what you want in someone- DON'T SETTLE. You'll never find a *perfect* girl, but keep looking, and you'll find someone who's perfect for you.

Disclaimer: these are simply my opinions, since opinions were asked for.

Biggest thing is doing go looking for her.
When she comes along she comes along. N yes, def dont settle.
As you know Im with Kat (Kat_Black181) now and she fell into my life.
I couldnt ask for a better woman.

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Originally Posted by Southern_Breeder

As you know Im with Kat (Kat_Black181) now and she fell into my life.
I couldnt ask for a better woman.

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:wuv: You guys are so cute.

Thanks Anya!
Shes my world :P

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Originally Posted by Southern_Breeder

Biggest thing is doing go looking for her.
When she comes along she comes along. N yes, def dont settle.
As you know Im with Kat (Kat_Black181) now and she fell into my life.
I couldnt ask for a better woman.

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I did not know this. You should let her get more tarantulas! :D

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

I did not know this. You should let her get more tarantulas! :D

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Lol I am!
I already know shes got one on the way!

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Originally Posted by Southern_Breeder

Lol I am!
I already know shes got one on the way!

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Don't you have a ton of snakes?? She needs a ton of T's. You need some too :D

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

Don't you have a ton of snakes?? She needs a ton of T's. You need some too :D

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Haha she can have as many T's as she wants.
I have enough on my plate right now with my dog, snakes, rats, growing collection of cresties, my tegu and the newest addition Im buying in the next few days.
*cough* black throat monitor *cough* (shhh she doesnt know this yet though lmao!)

I think we are well on our way to a little zoo. Lol

Me and my ex broke about 2 months ago. Do I know if it's 100% over!NO ,I was left with mixed signals...so im going to leave it be.

anyway,she was the exact opposite of me and well,believe it or not it was a great relationship,she just has some situations personally she needs to deal with. She is absolutely gorgeous and a good hearted person.

dont always look for something imparticular. Look for someone good that appreciates you for you. Don't set certain standards. You will meet someone when it's your time,patience bro..join POF to ease any sexual frustration,lol,if you get me. 100% free join!start sending messages and get yourself some action??best of luck bro

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Originally Posted by NYHC4LIFE8899

join POF to ease any sexual frustration,lol,if you get me. 100% free join!start sending messages and get yourself some action??best of luck bro

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Be careful with POF lol.
This is what my boyfriends plan was when we went on our first date.
2 years later.....lol

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Originally Posted by Wamba681

So randomly reading forum threads and came upon this one. I have to agree with a lot of points made already here. Mostly about compromise and respecting each others' hobbies.

I personally would like to find someone that shares some of my hobbies as well. It's nice to have things in common to talk about. Of course, I am willing to compromise, for sure. I'd take someone that's sane, funny, honest, respectful over someone that merely shares my hobby, but is a complete dolt.

I have to point this out to OP out there. There *are* girls out there that do have those hobbies! I'm one myself ;) I love reptiles (I've got .. uh.. 17 snakes now..) I play games, mostly online MMOs (Currently FFXIV), and I work nights.. to boot! Haha

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I work nights also plus my days off are during the week so it really makes it hard to go out and meet anyone. And when I do talk to women and they ask what hobbies I do and I tell them I have 19 snakes and many rats they tend to just go "UGH" and run! LOL Thought about just not telling them, but I dont like hiding things and being honest and up front. So ive stopped looking and figure hopefully one day someone will come into my life who likes or even can just cope with my reptiles.

Dude,don't be too picky. What matters most is how they treat you. I wish I can follow that advice myself,lol..

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Originally Posted by M&NSnakeDen

Be careful with POF lol.
This is what my boyfriends plan was when we went on our first date.
2 years later.....lol

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Lol,idk,at the moment I'm getting down with 3 chicks,one a friend from back in the day,one I met in a deli like a couple months ago and another from POF...what it is now is all it will ever be...but I get ya.. I actually met my ex on POF. We were together for 3 years,but seems most chicks on that site had baggage or are nuts or don't know what they want. My ex had a ton of issues,I even offered to pay out of my pocket,think it was$75 a week for her to go to therapy,she refused,that's a whole nother story

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Originally Posted by NYHC4LIFE8899

Lol,idk,at the moment I'm getting down with 3 chicks,one a friend from back in the day,one I met in a deli like a couple months ago and another from POF...what it is now is all it will ever be...but I get ya.. I actually met my ex on POF. We were together for 3 years,but seems most chicks on that site had baggage or are nuts or don't know what they want. My ex had a ton of issues,I even offered to pay out of my pocket,think it was$75 a week for her to go to therapy,she refused,that's a whole nother story

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Lol WHAT?!
I'm happy to say I'm not nuts nor do I have any baggage lol. Did I know what I wanted when I went on POF? Probably not. That's half the fun in figuring it out lol.

Also lol @ "getting down with 3 chicks"

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