I just got one. I dunno about the male female thing, but if anything, I would suggest a female. Dont quote me on that one. Many crested are sold unsexed anyway, since they are hard to sex until the male parts get huge. They are really easy to care for, room temp is fine, their diet is a powder that you just mix into a slurpee kind of liquid. Check out www.pangeareptile.com Great crested forum, chat and breeder.