i hate the people who live down the street..

[filly77]

I've never hated anyone in my life until recently and it really sucks as I've always gotten along with everyone and never have had enemies. here's the story.. If you care to hear my rant, keep reading..

My fiance and I have been together for a year and a 1/2. Before she and I got together, she was dating someone else. We will call her ex, "Becky"

Well my fiance had no idea Becky was already dating someone at the time. We will call beckys other gf Lori.

(ya following so far? lol)

When my fiance found out becky was with Lori, she ended it. My fiance only found out about lori because lori found out somehow and confronted her.

Lori started following my fiance everywhere, stores, friends, family and even waited out side of our community college so she could scream all kinds of foul words. Lori would call her cell phone (guess she got the number from Beckys cell) even threatened to kill her (my fiance) and her 1 y/o daughter.

Now we have no proof about what I'm going to tell you next but it's only common sense that it was Lori. My fiance parked her car in her driveway one night, just like any other night. The next morning, she went to go to work and her side view mirror was smashed off the side of her car.

So anyway. My fiance got a restraining order against lori, judge heard the voice mails w/ threats for her & her daughters lives and granted it for a year. Lori didn't even show up to the court hearing.

So now moving ahead.. My fiance & her daughter moved in w/ me. We would sit on our lawn swing and just enjoy the evenings out there. One night as we were swinging, her daughter was playing with my 4 y/o nephew who was up visiting me (they live 2 states away). When what did we hear? "You beeping beeeeeep" as Lori drove by.

We ignored it but it really upset me as my nephew is older than my fiances daughter and im sure he understood those were bad words. But like I said I ignored it as you cant rationalize with people like that!

A few days later my fiance was crossing the street, a car stopped to let her go. Or so my fiance thought. All of a sudden, the car gunned it and swerved around her, barely missing her by inches while screaming a nasty word. Yup, you guessed it, it was lori.

We also noticed lori's 15 y/o daughter was always walking down our street always flipping a butterfly knife, stopping right in front of our apartment while giving dirty looks. we wondered why she was always on our street, figuring they had to live somewhere around here.

Then a few days later, we caught lori's daughter in our driveway! Yes... In OUR driveway by my fiances car.

That was it, we had enough and went to the police. The judge this time only granted a no contact order, just for the mother. Ok well fine, we figured that should be enough to keep them away.

Come to find out that day in court Lori moved on our street, 5 houses down! She admitted to the judge she moved in in March. Now the restraining order wasn't even off by then. But apparently this judge didn't care that she violated it, even if it was as she claimed "unknowingly" Which i think is a lie as she was always following her and I. When we left the court room Lori was running her mouth to us as soon as we walked out while becky was telling her to stop and to just get in the car!

My fiances car has had something poured on it in our driveway, whatever it was, was dark in color and ate away the clear coat. And we caught the daughter in our driveway again about a week ago, she was on the passenger side of my fiances car and then took off running when we came out.

We listed my fiances car for sale as we dont drive it, havent in close to a year, we just drive my car. Well as we were moving it, low and behold, there's a flat tire on the passengers side! With what looks like a knife slash. We're getting a used tire tomorrow and the guy we spoke to on the phone said he might be able to tell if it was a knife (so i'll let ya's know)

I've about had it! The daughter comes in our driveway when ever she pleases. Lori swears as she drives by, even when we're not outside. about a week and a 1/2 ago, Lori was in front of my fiance as mt fiance and lori were both headed home at the same time, when they got to a stop sign, lori swung the car door open and went to get out of her car but Becky stopped her.

This is beyond ridiculous!!!!! We cant even bbq or sit on our swings in piece, drive down our own street and we have to always worry about our cars.

I dont know either women, never met them. Just seen them in passing. And my car has had what looked like coffee dumped all over it, spit on the window and there are scratches on it that I know wasn't there b4. (bought my car brand new w/ 4 miles on it, shes my baby lol so even now 3 yrs later i always look it over)

When we call the cops they say well we can talk to them but said that with people like that, talking to them will make it worse. The cops drive by now (once in a while) aiming their spot light at our cars. Our next stop is going back to court when we both have the time to do it!

the daughter is either dumber than a box of rocks as we have 2 GSD's but then again she might know that they are never loose in our yard, so maybe she isn't as dumb as I would like to think.

I've lived here since I was 14 (mom moved out & remarried when i was 18, knowing its hard to find a house that will rent w/ the amount of animals I have, I chose to take over the lease). I am now 30. All my neighbors love me, I've neverrrr had any problems here. We want to move but no one else would rent to me w/ 2 large dogs, a chihuahua, 2 indoor cats, birds, feeder rodents, 2 sugar gliders and of course my snakes & a gecko), trust me I've been looking!!!!!! And we both have crappy credit so we cant buy a home.

I just dont know what to do anymore! these people are very unstable. not so much becky (i kinda respect her as she TRIES to keep Lori in line) but the mother & daughter. I've even thought about installing an under ground fence so when my dogs are outside, they could patrol the area as my male GSD would no doubt keep someone out, he is VERY protective. But for one thing, they could easily poison my dogs and for another, the land lord is the one who mows the lawn & takes care of the trash. My land lord meeting up w/ my male GSD would not be good, as my land lord has no set times or days when he comes.

We need to move, its that simple but no one will rent to us and besides, rents cheap here, my land lord loves me cuz ive been here for so long and heat is included in the rent. Our only hope is that maybe the judge when we go back to court will make lori move. then again, if shes made move, im sure she would flip even more!

This last year & a 1/2 has been such a hard year, w/ a murder/arrest/molestation charges in my fiance's family, it caused such an uproar her own brother came here and tried to punch my fiance in the face through our screen door. I held my male GSD back, he wanted to EAT her brother, barking, snarling and trying to jump thru the screen door but I didn't want to chance him being put to sleep on the account of such scum. (cops told me after i should of let him go as my dog was on his property and in his own home lol) and the constant dealing with this nut case down the street.. Just shoot me! wait, dont there's been enough shooting in this town!

anyway.. there's my rant. sorry for the mini novel, I just needed to vent! I don't know what to do!

No wonder I have a bleeding ulcer lol

[Mindibun]

That's absolutely terrible. There really are some crazy nutcases in this world. I don't know anything about going through legal stuff - courts and judges and whatnot. But why don't you try to at least set up some sort of intruder alarm? I'm sure you could get one that covers a set perimeter, which you could include the driveway in. That way whenever anyone came into your yard or onto your property it would either call the police or alert you or whatever it is they do these days. That's what I would look into.

I think you've done the right thing by keeping your dogs away from them. I agree that if they've stooped as low as they have, then poisoning or otherwise hurting the animals is not below them.

I would try to keep the 1 year-old inside unless you know they're not home or something. It's not right for her to have to hear the bad language -- especially when she doesn't understand what's going on. She only knows that someone is yelling and it upsets you. It's not at all fair to her to have to stay inside, but I would be very careful about when you take her out and where.

I don't know what else to say, and I'm afriad I don't have any practical advice for handling situations like this. But my favorite saying might help: "This too shall pass." Just remember that we all go through bad spells, some worse than others, and no matter what, it's not going to last forever. Continue to do the right thing and be a good person, even when others are not, and things will start to look up. Stick to your guns, and keep in touch with family and friends. They can really come in handy at times like these.

Good luck with the courts, and stay safe.

[m00kfu]

Have you thought about setting up cameras to catch all of this on tape? Get a lawyer if you don't have one already, preferably one who has experience in harassment cases. That would probably be your best bet at getting rid of these people. Short of becoming really good friends with someone in the mob, anyway.

[RoyalGuardian]

I'm such a bad person... I would be one of those people that would retaliate. drill a hole in their wall and set 10 to 20 mice loose >_<..That would put them on their toes. LOL I don't know but I wouldnt be able to resist retaliation..... I just wouldn't do any like burning down their house but I'm not above tipping their car. I know I'm so bad...

[RoyalGuardian]

Have you thought about setting up cameras to catch all of this on tape? Get a lawyer if you don't have one already, preferably one who has experience in harassment cases. That would probably be your best bet at getting rid of these people. Short of becoming really good friends with someone in the mob, anyway.

I like that idea too! you can get some really good security cam systems at micro center! I would worry about your doggies they could let them loose.. <_<.... >_> you could get an electrified fence!

[mainbutter]

video recording is the way to go. Bait a trap for them etc, and gives you peace of mind. Ideally, have the recording be somewhere safe, that way if anyone spots the camera and takes it out at least you have video of that as well.

Hire a lawyer, the violation of the restraining order is SERIOUS and I can't believe the judge just ignored that.

[filly77]

thanks mindibun, I appreciate your heartfelt reply. We have thought about installing cameras outside we just dont have the money right now or even know how to do it. We have a motion light out there, problem is we have no windows on that whole side of the house where the driveway is. Trust me when I say, we watch her daughter (who is now actually 2 1/2) like a hawk outside and we usually have our dogs w/ us just in case. And also trust me when i say i watch my dogs, they're my family & pride n joy.

it's just crazy.. My fiance hasn't even looked at "becky" never mind talk to her in over a year and a 1/2. and lori is still stuck on it!! I will try to continue to ignore it, but it's getting harder. Ive even thought about yelling back at her something on the lines of "well if you were making your gf happy she wouldnt have cheated on you" buttttt i know that would make things sooo much worse, like psycho kinda worse. So I just shut up.. making myself look like a coward.

[filly77]

Have you thought about setting up cameras to catch all of this on tape? Get a lawyer if you don't have one already, preferably one who has experience in harassment cases. That would probably be your best bet at getting rid of these people. Short of becoming really good friends with someone in the mob, anyway.

LOL @ becoming good friends with someone in the mob

we have thought of cameras, we just dont have the money for one. thought about those fake ones that have a blinking light too but our luck they would know it was fake.

[filly77]

I'm such a bad person... I would be one of those people that would retaliate. drill a hole in their wall and set 10 to 20 mice loose >_<..That would put them on their toes. LOL I don't know but I wouldnt be able to resist retaliation..... I just wouldn't do any like burning down their house but I'm not above tipping their car. I know I'm so bad...

LOL no, i'd pity those poor mice. and as for doing things back to them, i'd actually feel bad if i did. and again, you have no idea how crazy this woman is! the police know her by name and not in a good way.. enough said

[JeffFlanagan]

Have you thought about setting up cameras to catch all of this on tape? Get a lawyer if you don't have one already, preferably one who has experience in harassment cases. That would probably be your best bet at getting rid of these people. Short of becoming really good friends with someone in the mob, anyway.

This is the way to go. It sounds like they're out of control, so it'll be easy to document what they're doing and prosecute.

If you're really having stomach problems, see a doctor. Ulcers are caused by bacteria and are easily cured.

Good luck!