I need your opinion

[MeMe]

here is her first message to me...

Dear Melissa,

I know that you have stressed your regret and are very sorry for what Sway has done to Roscoe but I have to say something that I am unable to on the phone or directly to your face....

I really do feel that you and Jeff should somehow repay me for atleast half of Roscoe's Medical bills, because really I feel that Sway is at a fault. Not only did "WE" as a whole know that Sway has an aggressive behavior to other animals but you had to go out of your way to control her. I am so stressed about this hurting our friendship, which I value very much, and I don't want this to come between us. All morning I have been surveying web pages to find out what I should do, like am I crazy for thinking that YOU should pay anything in this situation? Well it seems that every site I go to puts me back in the same position that I currently lead... I don't know how to handle this, and I wish it never happened, but it did and we need to come to some resolution. I want you to remember...I REALLY VALUE YOUR FRIENDSHIP AND DON'T WANT THIS TO HURT YOU OR OUR RELATIONSHIP. Now, as far as paying for something in this situation, I know you don't have the money right now and I understand that. If we can work something out where you pay me a little over time. I just need this feeling to go away and to get this off my chest. I also want you to know that if the table was ever turned I would do all that I could to repay you.



so I wrote....

First I would like to address the fact that you don't feel that you can have a mature conversation with me when I tried to speak with you about this matter over the phone this morning. Seems kinda high schoolish to send me a myspace message but hey...it's whatev.

As far as for my concern for Roscoe..you have no idea how upset I have been over this. If you remember correctly...I am the one who suggested that you take him to a vet a couple days ago which probably could have made a difference.

You say that WE knew as a whole that Sway is aggressive towards other animals yet YOU didn't take any precautions when you walked in MY house with him loose.

You were told numerous times that Sway doesn't get along with other dogs..yet you brought yours over anyway.

You also knew that you were supposed to call before you came over and you didn't.

We have gone above and beyond to accomodate your dogs when they were here to include pinning our dogs up for hours while yours run around my house freely.

You say that it is Sway's fault...hmph...I don't think so. You need to accept that it is YOUR own fault...not Roscoe's ...and certainly not Sway's.

You need to realize that accidents happen. And sometimes their your own fault. If I would have asked everyone of my fiends for money everytime one of my kids got hurt at their house...I'd be rich...but I know accidents happen.

Let me ask you question...If you were my neighbor and I had my dog outside my house on a leash and your dog came into my yard...and my dog bit yours...whose fault would it be?

If you were in my shoes...that's kinda funny actually cause if I were in YOUR shoes...I wouldn't ask you for [crap]. just sayin'

At the least I owe you...no...at the MOST..I owe you is half. Rememeber...you brought your dog in MY house.

I am pretty hurt that you didn't feel you could talk to me but I think I understand...it's a maturity factor.

However..the only oligation I feel is a moral obligation. I will pay you $291.50 which is half of the $583.00 that you said the vet bill was. As you know I am unable to right now so I will send you what I can in the mail via money order until $291.50 is paid.

Also...Jeff and I would like a copy of Roscoe's vet bill to keep on file until this is resolved.

Melissa


she worte...

I will get you any paper work you need. I apologize for the inconvience I imposed for bringing over the dogs, I didn't realize. The reason I could'nt talk about it before is just the simple fact that I really liked you and wanted to be able to say the things I meant without something stupid coming out..I wanted to be able to edit myself, not because I was afraid or immature. And also, I was let in by your son I think that day and sway was away...until she got loose. I should have never brought him over and I'm sorry that I brought this on you and Roscoe. I apologize. The one thing I will say in closing: If this was my child who was bitten would you still be taking this stern of a stance? I will get you anything you request again I am sorry.


so I wrote...


Inconvience....ha..yea..ok.

I understand that you were let in by my son (and not me) ..however...do yo think it was smart of you to just come walking in with yor dog at your side when you KNEW that my pitbull was even in the house? Did Jeff, Sara, or I know you were even here? No. we didn't which is why I asked you specifically to CALL ME FIRST.


As far as taking a strong stance...Why yes I will when it comes to defending my home...my family..and my pets..especially when they are NOT wrong. One day when you have a family you will understand.

Again...you should be able to see that this is most definitely YOUR fault and NOT anyone elses.

However...since you asked. No...if Sway had bit a child..It would have been a total differenet situation..but she didn't. She bit your dog which happened to be in HER house.

Let's try to stay away from the apples to oranges comparrisons..ok.

I find it funny that you say "Sway got loose". She was in her own home! She didn't "get loose"! Your dog was loose when it came in my house. Sorry but I do not feel Sway was wrong.

My dog was WELL within her rights in her home.

I am not gonna play the blame game because when i comes down to it...neither of the dogs could have controlled the situation...the only person that could have was you.

you can forwad a copy of the vet bill to my email address.

jeffnmenr3@msn.com