I got a male for my first Spider. I did this for several reasons. One, he was lower-priced than a female But better yet, this year I was able to plug him in with 2 females.. So it is the ability to get 2 clutches of Spiders from one male, instead of one from one female... If you have more females, the merrier
If you're not planning on breeding, a male will be less expensive.. But you should go with one of either sex that just GRABS you, that you can't live without