crystal, i have not picked up a snake by the neck that enjoyed it or was comfortable with it. i bet you notice when you do that, that he is constantly pulling his neck away to get free (depending on how close you are to his head).

i pick my snakes up from the middle of the body. anytime i start to control the neck close to the head...this isnt good. i dont know if they need to feel like they have the ability to strike if necessary; so its like saying "please dont tie my hands." especially with a new snake for you, head and neck shy is completely common. some snakes never grow out of that either.