Ladies and Gentlemen who are married...

[Epona142]

Guess I'll be first!

Nope, kept my own last name. I like it, and hate his! LOL. I know, doesn't that sound horrible? But his family is the ultimate horror in-laws, (haven't seen or spoken to them in years, thank god!...then again, so are mine and we haven't seen them either!), and he couldn't care less. There are far more important things in our life to worry about than what names we have.

Not saying that its not important to some!! Just not to us.

What works for us might not work for others!

[Tosha_Mc]

Married -- kept my name

[blackcrystal22]

HEY, I WAS gonna be first.
Kidding..

I'm not married, but I already know the answer. No.
I'm not changing my name (most likely) UNLESS his name is extremely attractive in my eye.. which most names really arn't to me.

Why? It probably has something to do with my Father and Ex-Step Father trying to get my mom to change her name (which she never did) and they really wanted it just for power and control.
I think its stupid. It's on my damn birth certificate, its a TON of money, you have to change EVERYTHING (license, passport, ext) and its just a ridiculous amount of work that isn't worth it.

If the guy is incredibly upset that it's not enough commitment, then he clearly doesn't understand the meaning of marriage. :]
Plus I don't like that tradition.. never did make sense to me.. why can't the guy take the girls name eh?

NOT that I discourage it with anyone else, just my personal opinion regarding myself. ^_^

[420boa]

would you be upset if your husband did not want to wear his wedding band? seems almost like the same thing

[blackcrystal22]

would you be upset if your husband did not want to wear his wedding band? seems almost like the same thing

No, a name is not nearly as much of a symbol as marriage as a ring.

A wedding band procedure is slim.
In they busy schedule of life, the procedure of renaming yourself almost seems pointless and extremely difficult and time consuming.

Like Epona said, there are probably many less expensive and better things to do with your time. I personally, don't want to go through all that over a label that didn't make any sense in the first place.

[mischevious21]

I wont be married for another two years, but I'm taking his last name. I just dont like how long my name will be after that. lol. The reason I'm going to is because I feel like it makes the bond between us stronger. I just kinda feel like we wont be "100% together", like "mine" or "his" Makes more since in my head, I swear. lol.

[SapphireTigress]

I actually fell in love with his grandparents long before I ever met hub, so when he came along and I saw hub's attractive packaging and realized he came from this excellent breeding stock (ahem), it was a no-brainer to take their last name.

Never regretted it. We said goodbye to Grandpa Fred in the winter, and it was rough, but, without his grandparents being so awesome, I doubt I'd ever met him.

I never worry about losing my identity, until the kids need something every five minutes and I become an appliance. LOL

[m0esgirl]

yep i changed my last name, but is it really a big problem to go from something like Konieczko to Salavea? no. but i do agree with the tradition, he is technically the head of the household, head of the family (even though we're even haha) but i took his name because its on HIM to make the check and its on HIM to protect us. now im not saying that if something bad were to happen (god forbid) that i would sit in the corner and whimper or faint or something, id grab a butcher knife and protect my kiddos haha but im kinda 'old fashioned' that way i guess. i dunno. to each their own though. whatever makes you happy.

[FIREball]

My wife took my last name and changed her middle name to her maiden name. Make sense?

[Christina]

My wife took my last name and changed her middle name to her maiden name. Make sense?

that's what my mom did. i think i'd probably do the same.