I won't go into the other issues. Derek did a good job there. One thing that I had never considered, but popped into my mind as I was reading this thread was about the separate feeding container. We've discussed the necessity of letting the snake settle into his new environment for a week before feeding. By using a separate feeding container, you are negating the settling in period. You're taking him from the habitat that he is used to and placing him in a strange environment, then asking him to eat. Ok, I said I wasn't going into it, but here I go anyway - this is actually one of the many reasons co-habitation is not a good idea. Separate feeding containers become a necessity. Until you can set up a separate habitat for your female, I'd remove HER and feed the male in his cage. But you should probably separate her permanently as soon as you possibly can.

Steve