I got my snake before i started seeing/living with my boyfriend. (we were dating before I got her, and he KNEW i was getting her). and he is abolsultey phobic. not "i dont like snakes". He cant even see them on TV. ..yet he lives with one in the room. I dont take her out unless hes in another room/sleeping or at work but thats the compromise we've come too. He likes aspen only because he knows how much she means to me.

We've come to a compromise because i want to get more snakes..and hes obviously not too keen on that. When we move into our next place, I'm aloud to renovate one room to become my snake room (i'm thinking more of a large closet). That will be the reptile room and he will just steer clear unless he wants to go in.

Relationships are about compromising, not about control. Talk to this guy, maybe he's seriously phobic, like my boyfriend, and needs to understand how you feel about your snakes. But if he cant see that or you guys cant come to an agreement, this may not work.. and by this, i mean your relationship. and if you can't tell this guy your true feelings..what are you doing with him?