My fiance and I have discussed the subject of us not being legally married and only I will have legal right over any children we have. We will have a hard time with it but it is something we will have to deal with when it comes. I'm not going to put my life on hold for the GOVERNMENT to make up its mind. If it was legal for us to be married, we would have been married last year.

As for legal rights over the children, is there anyway I can "give" legal rights to my fiance? We have already decided that when we have children, if for any reason, we decide to seperate, that my fiance will still have visitation rights. The law may not understand, but I do.

By the time I'm actually starting to look into getting pregnant, I won't have any debt. The only debt I have is a credit card which I can actually pay off as of my 21st b-day. Other than that, I have no debt. The car is paid off, rent is paid on time every month, no problem, and I don't have any school debt since all my classes have been at a community college where you pay before you take the class. So as of May, I will be debt free.

(Oh and I didn't answer this before. Yes, I am willing to put my life on hold because as I see it, I don't have any big plans for my life right now. I know what I want to be in life and I will work for that. I know a child will slow that down or even stop it for a time but ultimately, I can still be want I want to be in life if I have a child. I just can't be it right here, right now, and I'm ok with that.)