I understand the concern in this post and it is much appreciated. I do however have to point out that maybe some of your being fed up with this site is based on differences between the 11 breeders you've spoken with, and the general ideas of this online community.
The major one being that feeding live is comparable to a bad habit. You may have had a short disclaimer, but the way you worded it made it very well sound like the MOD was recommending a dangerous and bad habit of feeding. It's almost an insult, and I wasn't pleased to see it as we feed a majority of our snakes live with no problems.
No one is out to get you Missi, rather we are trying to help educate everyone on some very general accepted methods for keeping and breeding.
As always, we are all a very close group and welcome many new keepers to this site as well as old pro's, me being one of those rookies. We are passionate about these animals and I personally enjoy helping others on the road to successful acclimations and set the base for many years to come of herp keeping.
I would hope one thread doesn't sour this entire community for you. Instead allows you to embrace your hobby with a broader horizon than what you first came with.