i think that this is what I'd do. I had my male pastel on reserve this year just in case my spidey didn't get the job done. I'd hate to "waste" the season for a breedable female, just because one male and female weren't compatible.. maybe try your other male? If he doesn't get the job done either, maybe she's the problem?
Don't know if you read any further, but they made me out to be a liar and were locked when I got home yesterday.