At what point do you really feel that you can trust a person?

[Laooda]

Here you go - http://www.faunaclassifieds.com/foru...ad.php?t=78572

It's only about 2900 posts - have fun!

UGH! K, glanced at it.... Thanks for the link Robin!

[jotay]

I think there are different levels of trust and those levels may change as our experience with those people evolve and change. As far as business goes you try to make the best decisions you can but risk is always a factor.

Of course when you have done business successfully with someone over and over the level of trust increases. One of the best snakes in my collection I recieved sight unseen because I have done so many deals with the person when he said it's a smoker and i trusted him. That took 9 or 10 sucessful transactions for me to feel that way.

I never give unescessary trust to anyone. You never know who is going through a difficult time (drugs, gambling, debt) and dangling a carrot in front of them can be too tempting. Even friends. For example if you are throwing a party don't leave cash, valubles and jewerly lying around, it's not responsible and you are asking for trouble. i have heard the "It was only people I knew" line.

I strongly believe in vibes, impressions or instincts and I like to look someone right in the eye when I ask an important question. Eye contact and body language tell alot. Online we don't get that so referrals and reps are huge.

I do take risks sometimes but ONLY if I can afford to loose if it doesn't work out. In other words don't take risks with the rent or food $ for example.

Trust has many levels to me, it all depends who and what is at stake.

Very well said and good nuggets of wisdom

[littleindiangirl]

So, I've heard about that TSE thing and I don't want to hijack this thread, but what happened. I tried reading it, and I got to page 60 >.<
... then I saw there are around 600 pages. Yikes. Anyone care to PM me and catch me up or ...start a new thread? I don't need all the details, just a quick run through. that's alot of freakin pages with only 6 or so posts per page....

[Snakeman]

honestly, i dont really trust anyone. i can be trusting to them and then i end up getting burned and it just sucks. the only people i can trust are the friends i've had since elementary school and junior high.

i have a female friend where she's been burned a lot by her "friends" so she doesnt really trust anyone anymore. i've done things for her to show that she can trust me and she said she kinda trusts me but not completely. but i can understand what she's been going through so it'll take time before she fully trusts me.

[clipclopclip]

I'd say that superficially I'll trust just about any woman (at least physically), but never a man. Right from the getgo I'll give women a chance and men had better prove they aren't creepy stalkers before I trust them. That said, I'll say about anything to anyone without feeling strange (unless it is inappropriate in that situation). I am very outgoing and trust and love easily once I know I won't get physically harmed. Beyond that, very complex......

[MATT FISHER REPTILES]

i only trust someone after they have had the chance to screw me over big time and dont. then you to me are trustworthy.

[MelissaFlipski]

i only trust someone after they have had the chance to screw me over big time and dont. then you to me are trustworthy.

Interesting way of putting it. I like it.

So, I've heard about that TSE thing and I don't want to hijack this thread, but what happened. I tried reading it, and I got to page 60 >.<
... then I saw there are around 600 pages. Yikes. Anyone care to PM me and catch me up or ...start a new thread? I don't need all the details, just a quick run through. that's alot of freakin pages with only 6 or so posts per page....

I have no idea either, so if there is a PM, can you forward it to me? Or someone plz start a thread to summarize (w/out ending up with 2900 posts!). Thanks!

[MelissaFlipski]

Um... nevermind. I glanced at the TSE thread (thanks for the link). Wow. I see it would be IMPOSSIBLE to summarize!

[Ginevive]

I have my close family and friends that I trust. Now, there are some things that I do not trust each person with for various reasons, and no one besides my husband that I would literally trust with anything/any info about myself. Like, I won't discuss religion with my mom and some other family members; we disagree too much and it is a waste of time on both sides. And even my best friend, there are lines I draw regarding trust as well.
There were times that I could actually not trust my self.. times that I did bad things that put me in danger. So I do not think that oneself can always be trusted more than another person!
In business and selling things: I never, ever front anything to anyone. They pay me first or it is a no-go. Had a guy years back who wanted to buy an item from me that had to be shipped. He made a small payment and then wanted me to ship the item. Nope. Turns out, he had some excuse about not being able to afford the rest of the item's cost anyway; I would have been out the item and the $$.

[Snakeman]

well here's something i can add to this thread.....

last night i got betrayed by a guy friend that i've known for 10 years. i thought i could tell him secrets since i've known him for a long time. turns out he used me to get "info" from me so he could tell them this one girl he likes(and i obviously dont).

it just shows that even your closest friends will betray you and cant be trusted.