I know. She was just out of control. I hung out with people who lived below them in a double house, and thanks to a heating vent, I could hear everything word-for-word when she would be screaming at him! She was seriously nutso.. then she would say that he was the instigator.. but I knew better after inadvertantly eavesdropping.. it was before we seriously got to know each other though and I was more mad because I could not sleep from the noise!
I hope that your friend is able to get out of this soon. I do not think you should chew yourself up for it.. it is not your fault if she never sees the light. It is something i had to seriously realize with my friend, when she would pick me up to hang out and show me the bruises she had on her.
Wow am I glad that I have the husband that I do.