well, i know she's called a help line, but she said it was only for a few minutes and she was still very unsure about what she wants. she was going to call them again last night, but i'm not sure if she did or not. she's definitely taking the right steps, she just needs to give herself that final push. and like you said, i can't do it for her. god knows her family has been trying for years! she's only about 30 miles away from anchorage (in wasilla) so she's not far from help if/when she decides she needs it!