Melanie, your friend is a pleaser type. This can be a defense mechanism when she's been with an abuser a long time or something she developed as a child. She doesn't need you or anyone to rescue her though honey. She needs to find her own strength and her own answers. Some of those answers will mean she upsets people. That's life for most any adult female. If you rush in and rescue her, protect her, let her continue being a princess in waiting for her prince on that stupid horse, you are just enabling her to stay weak and dependent. If you love your friend than encourage her to be strong.

For some women and in some socities the word "strong" when equated with females gets translated into "word that means a female dog" (gotta love our censor lol). Strong isn't about being a bad woman, or trying to hurt anyone. It's about drawing a line and saying "I love you but this is my line, I deserve to have this line and I will defend it for me and for those that depend on me". Help your friend be a proud and strong woman who will see she deserves more than she is allowing herself to accept.