Um I never called anyone a scumbag. Sorry.

I don't know if you breed snakes and you're sensitive to this because you're the same way. But it's not how it should be. If I have a second job, that's not even MY personal business, it shouldn't mean everyone should expect less from me. If he doesn't have time.. should he be doing it?

If I don't have time for something, or can't do something right...maybe you shouldn't be doing it. That something people are taughted when they're very young. Obviously some are not taught that way.

I bet if I had a snake that I "didn't have time" to take care of, I'd be getting ripped apart because "time" w/ jobs/family etc. wouldn't be a valid excuse THEN, would it?