I don't know your girl personally, so I don't know how she feels about it. I'd be offended if my boyfriend told his coworkers that I was "just a friend" and didn't want me to come into his work because he was afraid of some ribbing. I guess it depends on where you work, too. Is it a casual environment or an office-type setting?

My boyfriend works for Aetna in their Network Operations Center, it's a officey, professional-type environment and he doesn't really talk about his personal life at work (he's told me as much). While in some ways I understand that, I've been pretty irritated that he doesn't want a picture of me on his desk. He doesn't hide from coworkers that I'm his girlfriend, though...and I talk to him while he's at work on the phone.

We're long-distance, too (2 hours, like you and your girl)--and because of the hours he works, I haven't been in a position to visit him at work. Considering he needs a magnetic pass to get into the building and I'd have to be on a "list" with Security to even get into the building, I don't know if either he or I would want to go through the hassle for me to actually visit him at work.

So I guess I'm mixed about it. As a woman, I know if I were in the situation you described, I'd be terribly offended. On the other hand, in spite of my irritation about it, I don't press the issue with my boyfriend, who doesn't want a picture of me on his desk. It's a conundrum. I have no idea if what I related helps at all