how to deal with an ex

[DSGB]

just seeking advice from people who dont judge me or know me that well ya know?

so my ex and i were together perfectly happy for 8 1/2 months. we had small normal arguments nothing ever out of hand. and one day out of the blue she says she needs time apart just wants to be single. i had no idea what to think. its been 2 months since that happen, we still talk just about daily. she still comes and hangs out and gets all cuddly and stuff. she calls me when she needs to talk or needs advice but when i call to talk shes got something better to do. and 2 nights ago she kissed me and it really felt good and like it ment something abd today she ignores my calls/texts all day and goes out drinking with her "friends" (drinking buddies).

i dont know what to do. i care about her alot but she really treats me like crap alot. and all of my friends tell me to drop it and move on but i cant. trust me i think about it and i know i would end up being happier with out her treatin me like garbage.

sorry to rant just had to get that out.

[steelrain]

FORGET ABOUT HER !!!
Life is way to short to be dealing with this BS, she wants to play games, kick her to the curb....
I know it sucks, but we've all been there, you'll find someone better, someone who actually CARES ABOUT YOU...

Good Luck

[Krazy99CL]

FORGET ABOUT HER !!!
Life is way to short to be dealing with this BS, she wants to play games, kick her to the curb....
I know it sucks, but we've all been there, you'll find someone better, someone who actually CARES ABOUT YOU...

Good Luck

true. I would stand up to her and tell her "Do you want to be with me or not because If not I have to move on with my life."

If she says anything with a "but". She obvisously do not know what she wants or confused OR seeing someone else but want to keep you on the side just in case the other man fails.

8months is not that long. I would leave now before she leads you on to deep. Its going to be harder the longer she plays with your emotions.

But if she truly loves you. Leave her and see what she does. Wait a couple of weeks and call her.

IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!!!!!

STAY STRONG AND DONT HAVE HER PERCEIVE YOU AS WEAK!

Good luck. Hope something what ive said helped.

[Sunny1]

FORGET ABOUT HER !!!

I totally agree. If she only wants to hang out or talk when it is convenient for her, then obviously she isn't a real friend either. Just don't hang out with her anymore, this is only going to lead to further heartache and confusion. There much better girls out there, girls that will treat you right and not lead you around. Good luck!

[Nikki0326]

I wouldn't even really give her an option of being with you. But then I'm more for the "you get one shot with me and that's it" type person. But chances are if she's pulling this BS now she will be later too. If you give her a serious chance and sit down and talk with her she might be better for a little while but most likely down the road she would do the same thing. So while it's hard to give up on someone, there are much better people out there who are actually worth your time.

[Nate]

She's playing games with ya man. Watch what happens when she calls you up one night and you say 'i have a date...gotta go. Bye'

her --->

Don't get played with. Move on with your life. Cut all ties...I promise, it feels great to meet new people.

[DSGB]

its so hard though. i have tried to just not call her but it never lasts.

[Krazy99CL]

She's playing games with ya man. Watch what happens when she calls you up one night and you say 'i have a date...gotta go. Bye'

her --->

Don't get played with. Move on with your life. Cut all ties...I promise, it feels great to meet new people.

Agreed. Go out and talk to at least 10 new girls, but dont talk about your situation to them. Just get to know them and get the number of the ones your interested in and take them out for dinner.

[DSGB]

sounds good. thanks yall. to be honest i dont even know where to go to meet girls now that i quit drinking. hm.

[tigerlily]

You'll never be happy if you allow someone to treat you badly. Fill your life with people who make you a better person, and fill your life with happiness. It's not worth it to try to make a square peg fit into a round hole. It may hurt a bit now, but it's better than years of misery. I'd walk away myself.