etiquette question

[python.princess]

all my life i've known that you are NEVER, under ANY circumstances, supposed to wear a white dress to somebody else's wedding. is this no longer true? or did i just make it up in my head? i've been to two weddings in the last month and a half and there was a girl at both wearing a white dress.... and both were about the same style that my dress will most likely be. both of these girls are young, probably fresh out of high school. is it possible that they've never heard this? or they just don't care? or am i just really making things up in my head?

all i know is that if somebody shows up to my wedding in a white dress, they will be going home to change. and that's that!

[GirDance]

I saw it too a couple times... But it was someone who did it intentionally to piss off the bride, and don't worry in all cases she took a lot of heat over it... One of them left crying, the other accidentally had red wine spilt on her.

Don't send them home... Just revel in the treatment they will get from your friends and family all night and enjoy your own night for what it is... Your night.

They may be wearing a white dress, but you're the one wearing *the* white dress.

[python.princess]

but the problem is, i'm having an outdoor wedding in the end of july so i'll be wearing a tea length dress.... as in, just below my knees. and the girls' dresses were VERY similar to what i have in mind.... maybe i can put something in the invitation.... lol!


btw... i almost spilled a red drink on the BRIDE tonight!!! would have been a BAD situation! lol

[GirDance]

Seriously, Don't worry about it. If anyone is looking at them because they are wearing a white dress thats similar in cut it's not because they're thinking they look nice. Its because they're all thinking they're trampy and lacking class for wearing a white dress to someone else's wedding.

What someone else is wearing *really* shouldn't take away from your day... So just don't worry about it, and if it does happen, again don't worry about it. The one and only thing people don't have control over in life is what other people do, the greater the separation you have from them (the less close you are) the less control you have. No one who you care about would ever wear a white dress to your wedding. If someone does it won't be someone close to you or your friends and family, and trust me, they'll get the hint it wasn't appropriate just by the way everyone treats them.

Focus not on what other people are doing at your wedding, but on what you and your close family and friends are doing to make it the most important day of your life.

[python.princess]

yeah, i know... it's just annoying is all. thanks!

[SarahMB]

I was a wedding planner at one time. Yes, it's bad form to wear white to a wedding, unless the bride is wearing a color other than white.

Honestly, if I were you, I would call or email those girls and inform them of their gaffe, in a nice way. Not everyone has been taught what is right, and most people are happy to have the advice.

[python.princess]

i have no idea who they are. otherwise, i would've probably pulled them aside and mentioned that in the future, it probably wasn't a good idea. but, being that i'm a complete stranger....

[SarahMB]

Ah, well that is a bit different, then!

Here's a site that might amuse you:
Etiquette Hell
I've spent hours there, over the years!

[GirDance]

haha... That site is great!

[python.princess]

haha... That site is great!

yeah, i'm gonna have to remember that one! thanks sarah!