Hi,


Well everyone interprets things differently.

I totally agree with Robin on this one. You can think anything you like, and certainly no one has a right to try and stop you, but part of acting in a civilised fashion is considering how your actions and public pronouncements affect others.

If you say something someone else finds offensive it is not always them that is to blame you know.

It comes down to making a judgement call on what you choose to share - and using the feedback from others to inform that choice. In the above example he should try and remember what his girlfriend finds appropriate for him to share with her in future.

I don't think anyone on the board expects you to be perfect but they do expect you to at least consider their feelings.

So, if you feel the need to protect yourself from the feedback of others, you might find it's easier to do it by not saying something you know will upset them that much.

Then again there is the whole art of diplomacy which teaches how to say things that need to be said while causing the least offense. Try typing the message and then reading it back to yourself trying to imagine you had no idea who typed it or their mood at the time. Tone is an extremely hard thing to convey accurately by text alone and a lot of the "drama" is actually caused by mis-interpretation of a message that could have been worded differently.

Just my


dr del