i have had friends who were very unstable in general--always having a problem, crisis, meltdown, whatever. there was always drama and nothing could ever have a simple solution. to me, it would always seem very obvious--if the problem is this, then you need to do this to fix it. but noooo.

you can give all the help and advice in the world to these people and it won't make one speck of difference. some people seem to enjoy a life of constant turmoil and drama and no matter how much they cry and complain about it they aren't willing to DO anything to change it, to take the steps necessary to change and to fix whatever the issues are.

it has been my experience that in the long run, it is better to cut your losses and let these people go on their miserable way. friends like this are a constant drain on you and while you do care for them and want to help them the fact is, they don't want to be helped. there is nothing you can do to change that and in the end you will be exhausted from trying.

for the first time in a very long time i don't have any friends like that right now, no one that is so needy of me, constantly having problems and drama surrounding them and i have to admit, it feels pretty good.

you really should consider not living with this person--i've done it and believe me, your stress level is only going to increase with every new day and the drama it brings. if you think it's hard to deal with this person now, multiply it by about 50 and you'll start to come close to how it's gonna be once you live together.