Quote Originally Posted by Jay_Bunny
I really just don't know what to do. I'm supposed to be moving in with this girl this summer. I can never have a conversation with her about relationships because we believe totally different things about what love is and how relationships work. To her, she can be in love with one person and have a steady relationship with them, but feel ok enough to go and be with someone else. My mind just don't comprehend that and its just so hard trying to be there for her and listen to all her problems.

Any of you ever have this problem?
I am going to give you some advice. But before I do, I want to tell you a true story.

I have always been a sexually active man. When I was 23 yo and in the US Army, I met Aliza. She was the daughter of a rabbi. I totally loved her parents. She was a wonderful person, but she could not commit. When I got out of the army, she moved in with me. We lived together for almost 5 years, and a couple of times while I was on business trips she cheated (with people that I knew!!!) on me. Each Rosh Hashanna I asked her to marry me, thinking that she would settle down once we were married. Eventually, I left her and it was really hard for her, but I had to move on. Within a year I found a religious woman and got married. We have been married 19 years and I have two teenagers now. (I'm almost 48 now.)

My advice:

DO NOT MOVE IN WITH THAT WOMAN.

Relationships must be eye-to-eye. You must be able to tell your secrets to the woman who shares your bed, and she must be able to understand where you are comming from. Otherwise, you will end up in a messy situation.

This is not two cents worth. This is life's lesson speaking. Remember there are three types of people out there.

1) Knows that peeing on an electric fence is not good.
2) Has a friend who peed on the electric fence and told him it was bad.
3) and there are those who just have to pee on the electric fence before they understand that it is bad.

Be a #2, and learn from me.