All these comments are really making "cents" to me. Unfortunately our (house) bedroom is pretty small so we can't go to big. I am indefinitely going to re-measure the room and see if we go a step higher in size. It makes alot of sense what you guys are saying about the split box springs I will definitely talk to the wife about that. We where told something similar previously which is why I bought the cross member supports for the bed frame, but it may have already been to late and the reason we didn't notice a difference. I don't know how to tell if a box spring is still "good" or not. Another thing we considered is dropping the bed to the floor to prevent sag. It probably wouldn't look to pretty (not a priority for me) but I don't know if it cause other issues or not.

Anyone use a "pillow top"? One of things my wife says is that it feels like her bones (hip primarily) are going to poke out through her skin...that sounds lovely... So she wants something soft yet supportive overall.

Thanks again everyone keep the info and experiences coming! I may sneak out of work early today and try stop into one of the bedroom shops tonight for a look.