well, when you first get your monitor leave it alone. completely ignore it other then to feed it and clean its cage until its comfortable with you being in or near its cage. let him get used to his cage and new surroundings.

after that start to sit by its cage and read, do homework, etc. but still completely ignoring it. this will give him a chance to observe you instead of you observing it.

once you've done this you can start to place your hand in his cage. away from him. if hr doesnt come to it just wait, then wait some more, then wait some more until your arm gets tired. the next day put your hand in there but a little closer, then a little more closer the next day, then a little closer the next day, etc, but never touching him. let him do the last part (climbing up your hand). if he shows any signs of aggravation (curling tail, puffed up throat, etc.) or of stress (closed eyes, running to his hide) then take your hand out and try again tomorrow.

pretty soon he will want to investigate your hand and you will have a handleable monitor (ive found this step is particularly easy with some help from a mealworm or two ). but remember, only handle him when he wants to be handled. if you open up his hide and just pick him up he might lose trust in you and you'll have to start over again.

that was the jist of it anyway