We gave the first grandchild too...on both sides. But my in-laws are actually pretty nice and we get along well. The only thing that bugs me is how religious, strong-minded and energetic Lex's mom is. I hate getting God crap preached to me or having the only answer given be "have faith in God". Ugh. She's also a very bold woman and will say things that she doesn't intend as hurtful but they are...she gets on my case because I refuse to eat venison and don't like dogs. And she is SUPER energetic...like when she came to visit after Zoe was born, my husband had to contantly entertain her and bring her places...basically leaving me alone to care for Zoe myself (after a c-section). She redid our garden, relayed our patio, cleaned the house, rearranged my pantry...then would get antsy if we wanted to sit and watch a movie and would go walk around the neighborhood until we were done.

All I can say is what's already been said...grit your teeth and bare it...and try not to fear visits. I have to move back up north when my husband deploys in a few weeks, and I know they'll be wanting me to come visit with Zoe...