well at this time, these chores are something of great importance. with my back injury i can't do much of anything... and when it doesn't get done, i end up doing it (cause i can't stand it messy for too long) and then i'm back at the chiro for a $35 visit and more stressed out which causes me to have to go back to the chiro again for another $35 visit... it's a huge issue here right now... hence the grounding.

i barely ever ground... and when i do it's more of a 3 hour grounding (so a long time out really) and in that time they get to sit and think. and when they come to me saying they are truly sorry and why... and what they could do different in the situation etc... then they are free to go about their business again...

this is the third time, since i've been injured that we've had to ground him over this issue... which is why it's a longer grounding this time. he needs to know that a simple sorry and back to not doing anything again isn't going to cut it this time. his grounding is no tv or video games (except i give him one hour in the evening if he's done lots around the house for me during the day) and no playing with friends. so he can be outside, he came to a movie with me yesterday (cars) and he's had subway two days in a row... so it's not like i have him locked in a small dark room LOL eating scraps of bread hahahahaha it's really just a removal of some stuff to get him to understand the importance of helping out right now.

i was grounded a lot when i was a teen... it sucked so much. so i try to not do that with my kids... we do a lot of talking... which usually resolves the issue but this one seems to be reoccuring for some reason... so we need to get him into the headspace of helping so i can heal.

hopefully this is working...

and right now... my house is very clean LOL

i'm making the chart today!